Baby Girl - Unsure

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Baby Girl - Unsure

Postby kbunsey » Sun Jun 12, 2011 08:43 pm

Does this belong on Grief and Loss or Preg Again? This week I found out baby #3 is a girl. It was kindof easier w/ Kyle being being a boy after losing FB. I can't really say how I feel now. I feel conflicted and confused. And sad. I wanted a girl so long ago, it seems. Now I love a boy. Will I be able to love a girl again?

Oh, and it is June again. Stupid June. but...I'm doing better than last year - thankfully. I think a lot of that was untreated PPD on top of subsequent pregnancy grief stuff. I guess I can be grateful that's over and treatable in the future.
Katie, married to Doug. Mom to Fiona Elizabeth, stillborn June 21, 2008 @ 26w; Severe Preeclampsia. Loved. Kyle James, born October 29, 2009 @ 39w; Healthy and PE Free!!! Josephine, born Nov.17, 2011 @ 39w; PE free again. Woot!
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Re: Baby Girl - Unsure

Postby uncskristy » Tue Jun 14, 2011 02:30 pm

(Sorry this has taken so long for me to respond but everytime I would go to hit reply some one would pop in my office)

I totally get where you are coming from. I so wanted to be told that I was having a girl a couple of weeks ago because I think it would be harder having another boy after losing Cooper. I am afraid of the comparisions.
You will be able to love this little girl just as much as you love your first child. I guess the love just multiplies with every child.
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Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
Wife to Matthew since 6/11/2005
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Re: Baby Girl - Unsure

Postby frogibe » Wed Jun 15, 2011 11:13 am

I agree with it being very difficult. I found out we are having another little girl. Which I am obviously excited and I already love her, but the MIL is already comparing and I have issues with this! I just want this little girl to have the opportunity to be herself and not be compared to her older sister. I miss Kelsie every moment and it is very difficult even being pregnant again. Hugs to you! I know it is very difficult.
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mommy to Kelsie born 1-10-10 from severe pre-e and HELLP at 28wks.
grew her wings on 2-14-10 due to NEC.
and to Josephine born 8-4-11 at 35wks. due to low amniotic fluid, but PE and HELLP FREE!!!! I kicked PRE-E in the behind!!!!!
Surprise! We are expecting #3 in April 2013
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Re: Baby Girl - Unsure

Postby kbunsey » Wed Jun 15, 2011 03:51 pm

Thank you, Ladies! I (finally) had my counselor recommend another counselor on my side of town (so I could actually get some therapy) and I have my first appointment tonight. Yay. I hope we click!

It is nice to see some friends w/ late summer/fall due dates. Baby #3 is due 11/23.
Katie, married to Doug. Mom to Fiona Elizabeth, stillborn June 21, 2008 @ 26w; Severe Preeclampsia. Loved. Kyle James, born October 29, 2009 @ 39w; Healthy and PE Free!!! Josephine, born Nov.17, 2011 @ 39w; PE free again. Woot!
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