by uncskristy (171 Posts), Thu May 26, 2011 09:37 am
I feel like all I do here is complain but I know you ladies can relate better than others would
I have always wanted to go to Charleston, SC. This weekend I am finally getting to visit but I am not excited at all. It is for my husband's cousin's wedding. No one from my FIL's side of the family acknowledged Cooper's life or death. None attended Cooper's funeral, none sent sympathy cards, not even a phone call, no email or even facebook wall posts when we make comments about missing our son or the PE Promise Walk. I know my husband is hurt by this especially when he looks at my family who have done the complete opposite. My husband is excited about this weekend because he knows that I have always wanted to go to Charleston SC. I have not had the heart to tell him that I am not really excited because of the reason for the trip.
And to top it all off, my husband tells me last night that his stepmom has alway started talking about how we need to name this baby after my father-in-law. The same thing happened with Cooper. She and her daughter threw a fit about how we needed to name Cooper after my father-in-law. My father-in-law even threw a semi-fit. Only our first child has been named after someone and that person was my husband so its not like we are picking sides of family. Why anyone (especially a stepmother and stepsister who never even lived with my husband) think they have the right to tell us what to name our children is beyond me. And to demand someone to name a child after you is just plain nuts. Plus, there is no way in * that we would ever name our child after a person who puts alcohol before his son, grandson and his own health, is consistantly hurting my husband by making promises and then not keeping them and who while my husband was in college got a credit card in my husband's name, didn't pay it, screwed up my husband's credit which almost cost my husband the opportunity to work where we have both been employed at for almost ten years. In my opinion, they need to be grateful that we still even acknowledge them. My husband's stepmother is a really loud drunk who will probably talk about the whole name thing this weekend and I don't know if I will be able to be the better person.
Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
Wife to Matthew since 6/11/2005