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Belated Introduction

Postby Shannonlynn » Fri Jul 15, 2011 02:29 pm

by Shannonlynn (102 Posts), Fri Jul 15, 2011 02:29 pm

Hey Ladies! I joined in May after I delivered my son Fritzy on May 6th, 24 weeks exactly. As most of you have had similar and devastating events I don’t have to tell you how scary and sad having PE is. I was 37 at the time and have since turned 38. Fritz was my first baby and I will cherish him for the rest of my life. A lot of missed warning signs kept cropping up. I think I was in denial and the doctors, well I can’t speak for them. My MFM helped me as much as she could and no one told me to continue to visit with her, so when I finally did, she gave me awful news. My baby had a short time to live. Within two days, I was admitted and delivered soon after. I still cannot wrap my mind around it and as the due date gets closer I daydream about what I SHOULD be doing instead of what I am doing. I saw my MFM 3 weeks ago and she ran the APS test on me. The nurse called to make a consultation appointment. She didn’t give any specifics but she did say there was something that could possible explain what happened and that it was good news for future pregnancies. I have an appointment with a new OB, one that has a reputation for being on top of things, unlike the ones I saw with the last pregnancy. I don’t plan to wait very long, September will be ttc time. After all, I am 38. I am so excited for everyone who is pregnant or trying again. You all give me the courage to try again…Thank you!
Shannonlynn-mommy to Frederick Otto "Fritzy"
born May 6, 2011, became an angel one hour later
Severe PE at 24 weeks to the day
Gavin Walden born 8-4-12,lovenox, folgard, lda, prenatals. PE and HELLP free.
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Re: Belated Introduction

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Fri Jul 15, 2011 06:59 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Fri Jul 15, 2011 06:59 pm

I am so sorry for your loss.I understand so much of your story. We had our only baby at 26 weeks he lived for 4 months fighting for his life before we lost him. August will be one year since he is gone. I am am now 39 years old. I am so afraid to try again but also afraid not too. I am thinking of you and hoping for better days for us in the furure.
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: Belated Introduction

Postby sam10 » Sat Jul 16, 2011 00:17 am

by sam10 (1441 Posts), Sat Jul 16, 2011 00:17 am

I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Fritzy! It is the hardest thing one can endure. I am one of the "older" ladies around here and will turn 39 soon. I gave myself time to deal with my emotions and also heal physically (my doctors had me wait for a while - I had a classical c-section). It took me a while to be ready to TTC. Good luck and get yourself checked over and discuss with your MFM your plan of action (hugs)
~Julija (40)
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: Belated Introduction

Postby Shannonlynn » Thu Jul 21, 2011 08:55 am

by Shannonlynn (102 Posts), Thu Jul 21, 2011 08:55 am

Hello again,

Thank you Sam and Holly for the wonderful words of support. It really helps to read all the posts on the forum. I don't know what I would do if it wasn't here. So, my husband and I have some long distance friends that were due 5 weeks ahead of us and I knew I would struggle with it when they delivered. Well, Monday was the day. We saw the beautiful pix on facebook. I am very happy for them but their child being born so close to when ours was supposed to be born is a sad reminder of things never to be. What makes it even harder is that when we announced losing our child they never responded. I know that it is especially difficult for a pregnant woman to deal with thinking about the loss of someone else's child but in my mind a reply on facebook would have been nice or a card in the mail. I am sure they didn't know what to say. And maybe I am just being way too sensitive. So many people have had difficulty knowing how to respond. Sometimes there are those elephant in the room moments. It is at those times, I offer to talk about what happened. I get a lot of replies of " I don't understand". I tell them to look at the foundation website and I tell them I don't understand because really no one does.

Anyway, on to what happened at my MFM appointment. I went Tuesday morning and I found out I don't have full-blown APS, however,I do have the antigen. Doc said 40mg shots twice daily when I get pregnant plus LDA. She was very optimistic and said she has had so many successes with it over the years that she has lost count. So, although the news is really not the greatest for the long term (maybe?) for the baby front it is very good. Next, I go to the ob in late August to get the plan ironed out. The strange part about the results is that it is acquired as opposed to inherited. That is weird to me, but the environment is filled with all sorts of stuff. Anyway, girls, be calm and carry on. HUGS
Shannonlynn-mommy to Frederick Otto "Fritzy"
born May 6, 2011, became an angel one hour later
Severe PE at 24 weeks to the day
Gavin Walden born 8-4-12,lovenox, folgard, lda, prenatals. PE and HELLP free.
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Re: Belated Introduction

Postby kerisue » Tue Aug 02, 2011 05:55 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Tue Aug 02, 2011 05:55 pm

Hi Shannonlynn,
Somehow I missed this post until just now. I'm so sorry that you had only a very short time with baby Fritz. My disease progression was very rapid as well. I consulted with a MFM specialist afterward and they encouraged me to wait 12-18 mos. in order to heal both physically and emotionally. I had a similar reaction- I can't wait that long I'm 38! That was over a year ago and I'm still not pregnant with #2, but I am glad I didn't get pregnant right away. What should be an exciting decision to make (to conceive a baby) turns into an excruciating one when dealing with grief and a horrible disease we know too little about. Best wishes to you though and I hope to see you around here again.
-Keri
Mama to Millie
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
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Re: Belated Introduction

Postby riehlism » Tue Aug 02, 2011 07:55 pm

by riehlism (655 Posts), Tue Aug 02, 2011 07:55 pm

Hi Shannonnlynn. I am very sorry for the loss of your baby. Too many of us here understand what it's like to lose a baby. I am glad to hear that you and your husband are doing well and are looking forward with trying again. It's scary, but at least you'll have lots of people looking after you. I will be 27 weeks tomorrow and starting my 3rd trimester with my second baby boy. I am on Lovenox shots, as well as baby aspirin. I started having symptoms around 21 or 22 weeks and delivered at 24+6, where I had severe PE and HELLP. I am more pregnant now than I have ever been. I have had no protein or BP issues this entire time. I am hoping for a quiet and uneventful 10 weeks until my scheduled C-Section.

Good luck with TTC.

Keri, you do NOT look 38! You must have fantastic genes.
Jasmin: Severe PE/HELLP and delivered at 24+6 & PCOS (29) Hubby Bubby, Frank (29)
Baby Blue stopped in to say hello and goodbye on 6/3/10
Baby Lucas was born on 10/13/11, PE and HELLP-free! Thank you baby aspirin and Lovenox
http://www.ehd.org/pregnancy-calendar.php?id=18192
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