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Re: Grave Marker

Postby uncskristy » Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:23 pm

by uncskristy (171 Posts), Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:23 pm

Beautiful!
Here's an idea that I want to pass along for any of yall. I made flower arrangements for Cooper's marker for every month/holiday with the flowers and picks to match the holiday or season. Christmas, Valentines Day, St Patricks Day, Easter, Football season, etc. I figured since I could not dress him in cute Holiday shirts, arrangements for each Holiday would have to do.
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Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby cmccaffrey » Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:28 pm

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:28 pm

Kristy,
I love that idea! I wish I lived near my son's grave. Maybe I can make an arrangement and mail it to my mother-in-law and she could put it out for me. I think it would be therapeutic for me to do something like that.
Christa (25) & J (26)
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Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: Grave Marker

Postby brandib » Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:52 pm

by brandib (510 Posts), Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:52 pm

I think its beautifiul. I can't quite read whats written under the dates though. What does it say?
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby cmccaffrey » Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:55 pm

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Mon Jul 25, 2011 04:55 pm

It says, "Our precious son, we thank God in every remembrance of you". It's my own version of Philippians 1:3.
Christa (25) & J (26)
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Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: Grave Marker

Postby brandib » Mon Jul 25, 2011 05:18 pm

by brandib (510 Posts), Mon Jul 25, 2011 05:18 pm

Awe, thats beautiful!
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby uncskristy » Tue Jul 26, 2011 08:40 am

by uncskristy (171 Posts), Tue Jul 26, 2011 08:40 am

cmccaffrey wrote:Kristy,
I love that idea! I wish I lived near my son's grave. Maybe I can make an arrangement and mail it to my mother-in-law and she could put it out for me. I think it would be therapeutic for me to do something like that.


I live a good bit aways from Cooper's grave as well so I have put my parents in charge of switching them out. It makes them feel like they are doing something for the grandson they never got a chance to know. Making the arrangements has been very therapeutic for me. I have to admit some of my arrangements have turned out a bit on the cheesy side which leaves my husband joking "Poor Cooper, His momma is determined to embarass him even through he is in Heaven". :)
Kristy
Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby cmccaffrey » Tue Jul 26, 2011 12:13 am

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Tue Jul 26, 2011 12:13 am

Kristy! Nothing would make me happier than for Mason to look down from Heaven and say "my mom loves me enough to make me cheesy flower arrangements" and blush a little bit! You seriously but such a nice happy thought in my head. <3
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Tue Jul 26, 2011 09:43 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Tue Jul 26, 2011 09:43 pm

We had Benjamin creamated and I have a beautiful corner table with a picture next to his ashes that I guess has become somewhat of an altar. Depending on the month,season or holiday I decorate it and always have a candle burning. It comforts me to do this as well. Love to all of you. xo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

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Re: Grave Marker

Postby flori » Thu Jul 28, 2011 00:13 am

by flori (225 Posts), Thu Jul 28, 2011 00:13 am

We had the top of a bookshelf in our bedroom dedicated to Gracie. I have her urn in the middle and flowers on each side. As the flowers started to dry I'd put them in an empty vase and soon it filled with different colored petals and such, it was very pretty.

I thought about buying her little things during holidays (like a little plush Easter bunny around Easter) but it was still too hard to buy something for my baby that wasn't here to enjoy it. I do love the idea though, as I get stronger I think I'll start to do that with her new resting place.

Holly, thanks for the corner table idea. I love it. Since moving we haven't found a place for her that I'm happy with but I think a nice corner table will be great.
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Mommy to Gracie- born at 25 weeks 03/15/11, 11 inches, 1.1lbs, and absolutely beautiful. Became my sweet angel the next day.
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby kbunsey » Sat Jul 30, 2011 09:43 pm

by kbunsey (895 Posts), Sat Jul 30, 2011 09:43 pm

Mason's marker is beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

It still is bittersweet visiting the cemetery. It took me a year to get that task done and I had to enlist my FIL to help. I kept her ashes in a box in a drawer along w/ pictures and things for a year before letting them go to the cemetery. It was so final. But it was good to do.

Others have mentioned candles - my husband lights a tealight each night at bedtime in our bedroom for FB. Every night.
Katie, married to Doug. Mom to Fiona Elizabeth, stillborn June 21, 2008 @ 26w; Severe Preeclampsia. Loved. Kyle James, born October 29, 2009 @ 39w; Healthy and PE Free!!! Josephine, born Nov.17, 2011 @ 39w; PE free again. Woot!
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