by ktsl123 (297 Posts), Mon Jul 25, 2011 10:25 pm
When I had my son the high risk Doctor that came in my hospital room to tell me I had preeclampsia and talk to me and my husband was such a nice Doctor and I remember him being incredibly honest, smart and informative. Today I met with him after seeing 4 other high risk Doctors. I have had such a hard time feeling comfortable about conceiving because I have been so scared. The 4 high risk Doctors that I met with I felt no connection too. The Doctors gave me the facts and the go ahead, but didn't seem to care about my fear or concerns I kind of felt like (just another patient).
Today I met with the 5th high risk Doctor (the one I met when I had my son) and I felt such a good connection with him. I felt like he really addressed my concerns. I told him I am afraid to die and that is what is keeping me from moving forward with trying ttc when I really want to. He made me feel so comfortable and he told me that he promises me that I will absolutely not die. He explained to me that that is what happens to women that don't get prenatal care or obviouly really bad prenantal care. He said I would be watched and monitered so very closely and it's a good thing that we know I am at high risk for preeclampsia because obviously they will be watching for that my whole pregnancy. He explained to me that when someone does get sick it's usually the same time or later and he explained to me that generally about 80% of his patients that had PE did not get it again.
I am so happy that I met up with this Dr again and I can't believe that I can actually feel as comfortable ttc as I do. It definitly helps to find a Dr that you are comfortable with because I really trust this man. He also told me his wife had PE with their first kid, but not the next 2 kids. I am so happy because I feel like I can bring another child in this world and not be so scared.
He also made me realize that while going on website's like these forums are great for support, but we also see some worst case scenarios that scare the crap out of us. When most of the time Mom's and babies do well even when they have PE.
Son born healthy at 5lbs 8oz at 35 weeks +2 days due to Severe PE on 7-21-09