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Cycle Day 1..

Postby princess purr » Thu Aug 04, 2011 10:54 am

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Thu Aug 04, 2011 10:54 am

This is always such a sad day when you are trying... but I'm happy because we aren't supposed to be trying until November. I think I'm going to start doing the temperature thing just to make sure my lutral phase is still 12 days. Ahhhh those two years of my life were crazy when my ex and I were trying. I hated watching and waiting for the temp to drop and then go up!! This will be different though! I have been really lucky lately with normal 28-32 day cycles. My cycles used to be CRAZY as long as 72 days. When I finally got pregnant last time I ovulated really late, around cycle day 32 so I wonder if that had anything to do with anything. I just keep telling myself things are so different now... I need to stay in a happy place and in November just drive in and hope for the best and maybe Veronica will give me a miracle since that is her month!
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Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby kerisue » Thu Aug 04, 2011 03:48 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Thu Aug 04, 2011 03:48 pm

I'm ttc now and I hate cycle day 1 too, bc it means last month was unsuccessful and I have to wait a whole month more to know if I'll be lucky this time around. It also means I'm back at ground zero of a process (pregnancy) that I was already more than half way through when things went wrong last time- brings up resentment that I'm even trying when I should have already had my baby! (but that's still grief talking).
Good idea to start tracking your cycles now so you'll be all ready for November... though it sounds like you want to start sooner?
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby princess purr » Thu Aug 04, 2011 07:13 pm

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Thu Aug 04, 2011 07:13 pm

I would like to try sooner if we were more ready, but I want to wait to November to drop some weight, get the house ready.... plus we are going to Disney world in November and I don't want to be wondering if I'm pregnant or not or worried if I am and I really do not want a Feb/March/April due date... I think the dates would just fall to close to when I had my daughter because she was due March 1st. Soooo I figure we will try November - May (if needed LOL), then take a break and try October to May (if need).... and then if nothing give up on that, bite the bullet and spend $30,000 (O-M-G) for international adoption.
I hope you get preggers quickly, and you are so right, trying when you should have a baby in your arms is the worst. I'm still bitter, and it has been a long long time for me. I feel like it cost me my first marriage, my first child, and a lot of pain. I just keep hoping and praying that this time will be different!
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Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby sam10 » Thu Aug 04, 2011 07:51 pm

by sam10 (1441 Posts), Thu Aug 04, 2011 07:51 pm

CD1 sucks...sorry for my "French" here.....CD! affects not just me, but also my husband. All of this unsuccessful TTC is affecting us both and we are getting tired of it. It takes so much strength to go through the roller coaster every month. I am technically equipped (fertility monitor), know my body really well by now, all help we can get is worth it! So, temping and watching for other fertility signs is definitely a good thing. It helps me feel in control to some extend.
I am mid-cycle right now....
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MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby flori » Fri Aug 05, 2011 00:38 am

by flori (225 Posts), Fri Aug 05, 2011 00:38 am

Looks like there's a group of us that will be pregnant/ttc at the same time. How fun.

As much as I am looking forward to when we finally ttc, I am also TERRIFIED. I can't help but think of the worst happening again and I wonder if we'd be able to survive it. Then other days I am convinced that this can't happen twice to someone and I can't wait to get going. Stupid roller-coaster of emotions.
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby princess purr » Fri Aug 05, 2011 02:14 am

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Fri Aug 05, 2011 02:14 am

The roller coaster is horrible, and I'm not really sure if it ever goes way... I was so scared to try that it has been 7 years and I got divorced and remarried. So I feel really hopeful that all you guys are going to have GREAT outcomes with healthy babies :-) Me on the other hand... I feel like it's a first pregnancy all over again and my first one went really really bad!! So I'm hopeful for all you guys, from what I have been reading it seems like the odds are in your favor, I know it's still scary. I kinda have always thought to that most of us are on here because of how much preeclampsia effected us... so we must be the more extreme cases. I have come across a few people that have said ohhh I had that, it was no big deal, baby was fine, little bit of bedrest at the end of the pregnancy. Wouldn't have minded being one of those cases so much!
Val (34) & Carlos (32)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby Aidensmommy212 » Fri Aug 05, 2011 02:51 pm

by Aidensmommy212 (14 Posts), Fri Aug 05, 2011 02:51 pm

Looks like I will be joining the group of you girls that will be ttc around the same time as each other :) My husband and I plan to start trying again in October (which will be 8 months since delivery). I just went back on Birth Control in the meantime because I can't handle another pregnancy scare before we start trying, soooo my emotions are a complete crazy mess right now (I'm blaming the estrogen...and that darn "If I Die Young" song that seems to be stalking me!)
I hope we all have very easy ttc experiences and very happy and uneventful pregnancies together! Best of luck to all of you :)
Nikki (28) & hubby Blaine (40)
Mommy to Aiden Blaine - 15 oz./10.5 in. w/ IUGR
Born 2/12/11 @ 24+1 weeks due to Severe PE & HELLP
Lived 10 days, loved and missed more than words can say
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby princess purr » Fri Aug 05, 2011 03:20 pm

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Fri Aug 05, 2011 03:20 pm

OMG every time I hear that song I turn it OFF. Even if I have to turn the radio off. It is haunting me and FREAKING ME OUT!!! Why oh why would someone right that song. ughhhhh just thinking about it makes me scared and upset (yea, I am hormonal right now LOL) Looks like we will all be good support for each other. If we all get preggers around the same day we can be a bunch of worried nuts together to :-)
Val (34) & Carlos (32)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby Aidensmommy212 » Fri Aug 05, 2011 03:45 pm

by Aidensmommy212 (14 Posts), Fri Aug 05, 2011 03:45 pm

Haha! I'm so glad I'm not the only one! The whole song kinda bothers me, but I have to say that the part that makes me yell at the radio sometimes has to be the "Well I've had just enough time" part. Are you kidding me!?
I am very relieved to have some other people to be "worried nuts" with me though...it's one of the only comforting parts of an otherwise terrifying situation! ;)
Nikki (28) & hubby Blaine (40)
Mommy to Aiden Blaine - 15 oz./10.5 in. w/ IUGR
Born 2/12/11 @ 24+1 weeks due to Severe PE & HELLP
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Re: Cycle Day 1..

Postby jean » Fri Aug 05, 2011 06:02 pm

by jean (675 Posts), Fri Aug 05, 2011 06:02 pm

OMG I just have to say that I heard that song on the radio and started bawling a few weeks ago. I CANNOT listen to it AT ALL! I don't wanna die young, and I did have to bury my child, and it's not fair!! (sorry, that was OT, but I couldn't help but say something!)
Our first son was born and passed in Feb of 2010. Born at 29 weeks due to HELLP and passed due to NEC. We miss him every day. :~(

Our second son was born at 39 weeks gestation in Nov of 2011. No HELLP or pre-e! Took LDA starting at week 12 and went off of it at week 38!

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