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age related infertility - how long before seeking help?

Postby sam10 » Thu Aug 11, 2011 11:20 pm

by sam10 (1441 Posts), Thu Aug 11, 2011 11:20 pm

I will turn 39 soon and am getting increasingly anxious not being able to conceive and/or early miscarriage due to my age. I have started thinking about seeking help (infertility treatments) to help things along. I have regular cycles and no issues, monitor my cycles and have timed intercourse. But the closer I get to my birthday the more I am starting to wonder about my age and its effects on fertility. Anybody out there who is worrying about age related infertility, and if so, are you starting to think about alternatives? How long should I try on my own before getting help from a fertility specialist? I feel I am running out of time.
Is it not enough to have to worry about PE? Sometimes I feel I got dealt one bad hand after another...uggh.
~Julija (40)
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: age related infertility - how long before seeking help?

Postby jules2 » Fri Aug 12, 2011 02:37 pm

by jules2 (514 Posts), Fri Aug 12, 2011 02:37 pm

How long have you been trying for now? Did you have problems conceiving Henry?

I had two m/c between losing Alice and getting pregnant with Rachel - so that took me nearly a year in total (I was just short of 39 when I got pregnant again with Rachel). It felt awfully long at the time, but given my age and past history a couple of miscarriages and taking a little while probably was nothing unusual. Like you, everything seemed to be fine and I had no reason to think I had any fertility problems beyond the usual getting older one.

That's not to say you should not seek help though - just that it can be totally normal by the time you are in your late 30s for it to take a while and have a few m/cs etc.

I am hoping you get there soon with or without help.
May 2009 - Alice stillborn at 26 weeks due to severe PE and HELLP post-partum

2 early miscarriages

And then 4th pregnancy baby girl due 29th December 2010! Born safely after totally normal pregnancy on 17th December.
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Re: age related infertility - how long before seeking help?

Postby riehlism » Fri Aug 12, 2011 02:44 pm

by riehlism (655 Posts), Fri Aug 12, 2011 02:44 pm

It's good that you don't have any issues with your cycle. I believe that trying for about 5-6 months without getting pregnant can warrant seeing a reproductive endocrinologist. It might be a good idea make sure your hormones are being released at the right time and the right amount. For example, low LH levels won't allow for an egg to be release. Low FSH won't allow for follicle maturation. Low progesterone won't sustain a pregnancy and may end in a miscarriage. You know, stuff like that.

In terms of medication that can help, I think a lot of ladies with TTC issues have tried Clomid. Clomid is a pill you take on days 3-8 of your cycle to help induce ovulation, so you can time your baby dance appropriately. A lot of people have success with it. Others don't. But I know of some posters who also used Femara for the same thing.

In any case, I would definitely try to get a workup done...even if it's just to tell you that all's well.
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Baby Blue stopped in to say hello and goodbye on 6/3/10
Baby Lucas was born on 10/13/11, PE and HELLP-free! Thank you baby aspirin and Lovenox
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Re: age related infertility - how long before seeking help?

Postby sam10 » Fri Aug 12, 2011 03:00 pm

by sam10 (1441 Posts), Fri Aug 12, 2011 03:00 pm

Thank you, guys. I was just feeling down yesterday and got really worried that my time will be up soon!We have been trying only for a few months after my last m/c in February 2011(waited the time doctor ordered). But as you can read below, it seems that we have been trying for years now.

I had fertility issues before conceiving Henry even though all seemed normal. After a while I went to see specialists. They did the whole thing (tests and all that) and diagnosed me/us with unexplained infertility at that time (in 2008 after trying for over a year). They put me on Chlomid (was totally horrible for me), then Femara, and still nothing. Eventually I went to seek a 2nd opinion, so they found a growth in my cervix. The same day as this was found, I was about to release an egg, so an insemination was done, and I got pregnant, but miscarried. With that mc the growth in my cervix was gone too and 3 months later I conceived Henry without any medication or help (only my ovu kit). This past January I also got pregnant. but miscarried in February. As I am aware of reduced egg quality due to my age, I am just getting exhausted and tired of these years of trying to have a baby. I just don't want to wait around for too long before it is too late. Realizing all of this is sad and adds another layer of complication.
~Julija (40)
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: age related infertility - how long before seeking help?

Postby kerisue » Sun Aug 14, 2011 09:51 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Sun Aug 14, 2011 09:51 pm

It's sad for me too Julija. I realize that due to my age it could take longer to conceive, but every negative test is still really difficult. I always find myself thinking- but I already had a baby I shouldn't be going through this! My anxiety comes both from fear of not being able to conceive at my age, but also the increased risk for chromosomal abnormalities. It seems like your risk for that goes up very very rapidly as you approach and surpass 40.
You've probably done the fsh and estrogen tests; if not, I would suggest doing that so you know where you are now. A midcycle ultrasound scan might also be good to see if you have eggs of the right size about to pop. Baby dust for us both.
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
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Re: age related infertility - how long before seeking help?

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Mon Aug 15, 2011 07:53 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Mon Aug 15, 2011 07:53 pm

I am 39 too,no other children. I understand and wish us all luck xo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: age related infertility - how long before seeking help?

Postby princess purr » Tue Aug 16, 2011 02:15 pm

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Tue Aug 16, 2011 02:15 pm

I'm 32 with no other children, and it took me two years when I was 22 to become pregnant... so needless to say I'm worried how long it will take this time! My mom went through early menopause at 36 so I really really feel like my time is running out. Hope it happens for you very soon!!
Val (34) & Carlos (32)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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