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Postby holly3372@msn.com » Sat Sep 03, 2011 06:40 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Sat Sep 03, 2011 06:40 pm

ok,so I told myself once the one year mark has passed since we lost Benjmain I would be ready to try again.......I am terrified now!! I will be 40 in March yikes!!!! We have no other children. I don't know what it is I expect any of you to write,I guess I just know you will understand more than most. Sigh....
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: cold feet

Postby cmccaffrey » Sat Sep 03, 2011 06:55 pm

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Sat Sep 03, 2011 06:55 pm

I understand completely! I really really really wanted to try again, but then I had all of these thoughts of what if's and scary feelings. Eventually, I kind of just gave into the fact that what else is there to loose (we also have no other children)? I mean, I have spoken to doctors, I am healthy and in shape... I need to take advantage of my body before it starts working against me. My husband did not feel more comfortable about it all until he spoke to doctors directly to make sure that I was not signing a death sentence by getting pregnant again. They gave us the go ahead and he just decided that they knew what they were talking about. I think you will know in your heart when it's right again. Today you might say no way and then you might wake up tomorrow and be ready to get busy.

Be strong, Holly!!!
Christa (25) & J (26)
Mommy to:
Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: cold feet

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Sat Sep 03, 2011 06:59 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Sat Sep 03, 2011 06:59 pm

Ahhh your the best thank you! You are right! I am ovulating and so emotional,missing my boy. Thank you xoxo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: cold feet

Postby kerisue » Sun Sep 04, 2011 11:39 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Sun Sep 04, 2011 11:39 pm

I'm ttc now and will be 40 next year and I'm terrified too! ...terrified about all the possible bad outcomes. I'm holding out hope for joy instead, I guess that's all we can really do.
Mama to Millie
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
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Re: cold feet

Postby cmccaffrey » Mon Sep 05, 2011 00:30 am

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Mon Sep 05, 2011 00:30 am

I love that Kerisue! I am holding out for joy too! I know so much can happen, but I have faith that there is joy in the future!
Christa (25) & J (26)
Mommy to:
Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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