So my husband and I decided to just stop all forms of contraceptives and let things happen. We wouldn't break out the ovulation kit until its been a few months. But of course, my anal retentive self already knows my ovulation days. I am 8 dpo right now and I don't think we hit a bullzeye this month. I'm not sad though. I think this has helped ease my husband a lot too because I think a part of him started to worry that we would never be parents, and that he didnt want to risk my life, etc. When I told him that we will just see what happens I've noticed a change in his demeanor.
So it looks like I'm on this board now. With my little guardian angel watching on his mom, it makes me feel that maybe this time around things will be better.