I had my post partum appointment with my peri this past monday, and we discussed the placental pathology report from my abruption with Janelle. She said the report said there was extensive damage indicative of an auto-immune disorder at the vascular level. She ordered the underlying disorder tests and they all came back negative. So she hopes that it's something that is just affecting my pregnancies, and that hopefully I won't develop symptoms of a disease later on.
She said that if I got pregnant again I have a 25% chance of a "catastrophic complete abruption" again, and that it could be fatal seeing as to how this time I lost over 3.5 liters of blood and needed numerous transfusions. She said I could die. She suggested that if I want another biological child I use a gestational carrier, which I have now been researching (and finding out it is quite expensive--but it may be our only hope).
I will be 34 in March, and I am giving myself until I am 35 to decide if I want to go through another pregnancy, or use a gestational carrier. The thought of being pregnant again, and burying another child scares me way too much, but I so desperately want my son to have a biological sibling. I am one of 5 kids, and my husband is one of 12. Right now I'm leaning towards using the carrier. My husband was not at the appointment so for now he says it is up to me. That he realizes it would be risky, and would be willing to use a gestational carrier. I TRULY still cannot believe I've buried two daughters. Sigh.
-Elissa, January 2007: stillborn at 25 weeks, severe PE, IUGR, reverse-end diastolic flow
- Chronic hypertension as of November 2007
-missed miscarriage Feb 2009
- Ismael Jaden, June 2010, 36 wks, oligohydramnios & rising BP's, my wonderful little man & the love of my life
- Janelle, September 2011, 24wks, 3days. complete placental abruption & DIC, stillborn