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I chickened out...

Postby princess purr » Tue Nov 29, 2011 02:28 pm

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Tue Nov 29, 2011 02:28 pm

We decided to start trying again in November... around CD 12 I said lets wait another month so I can start taking the perinatals and baby aspirin again because I have been forgetting. I also need to start working out again. Hopefully I will get up the nerve soon :-/
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Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
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Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: I chickened out...

Postby kerisue » Tue Nov 29, 2011 11:36 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Tue Nov 29, 2011 11:36 pm

I think that ttc again after a loss is quite emotionally demanding- you need to make sure you're 100% ready before starting!
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
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Re: I chickened out...

Postby flori » Thu Dec 01, 2011 02:47 am

by flori (225 Posts), Thu Dec 01, 2011 02:47 am

I agree with Kerisue, Val. You have to be sure you are 100% ready so take your time if you need to. Just remember that we're here for you to share your journey.

I'll be on the train with you soon after the new year. :)
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Re: I chickened out...

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Sat Dec 03, 2011 10:12 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Sat Dec 03, 2011 10:12 pm

Ha! Yep know the feeling. I've chickened out too many times now. I thought I could possibly be pregnant in November and let me say i was panicked oh boy! Then when I got my period the 1st I was both relieved and sad. I keep coming up with excuses mostly weight related to not try yet and all this time I still haven't lost any lol. I don't know but I don't think I will ever be 100 percent ready after the loss of my son. will any of us? I guess eventually I gotta just let go and go for it. I understand. Love to all xo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: I chickened out...

Postby princesspurr » Sun Dec 04, 2011 02:18 pm

by princesspurr (39 Posts), Sun Dec 04, 2011 02:18 pm

After seven years and a few days, I think I can safely say that I will never be 100% ready in my fertile years. My mom stopped getting her period when she was 36, so if I have that kind of "luck" I only have about 3 years left. Wow, I just realized I'm turning 33 in a few months.. i think I feel a panic attack coming on... My reason is mostly weight as well, but as well I havent lost any in fact I gained about 15 pounds since we started talking about trying, which kinda makes me think I am using weight as any excuse. The hubby did slip up on cd 14, but I normally have 32+ day cycles with a 12 day luteral phase (I tried to get pregnant for 2 years before Veronica so I'm kinda of a pro at this craziness LOL). So I think we will be safe this month. I am always disappointed when I don't see those 2 lines, but I'm scared to try to actively make it happen. Like I feel like I don't have the right to TRY because of my history and my weight, even though I see women much heavier then me not have a problem, and some very think women have a problem. Part of me says it has been 7 years, I have a new partner, different job, more support, better friends... it is a whole new deck of cards... but then I think it is still a deck of cards... and I have more jokers because it has happened before... but maybe this deck only have the normally amount of jokers because it is a new deck... sigh..
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Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
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Re: I chickened out...

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Wed Dec 07, 2011 07:53 am

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Wed Dec 07, 2011 07:53 am

Sigh,yes understand. I know I think do I dare try again with my history/ knowing what I know now that this could happen again and put a baby through even a moment of what my son went through?! Then theres the other side where this could not happen again! Well my young friend I will be 40 in march so theres another thing lol!! Thinking of you
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

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