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What a night :-/

Postby princesspurr » Sat Dec 17, 2011 10:18 pm

by princesspurr (39 Posts), Sat Dec 17, 2011 10:18 pm

So, hubby and I decided not to start trying this yet. I gained some weight and I really do want to drop at least a little before we start trying. Well he messed up around cd 14, I wasnt to worried because I normally have 32 day cycles with a 12 day luteral phase, but I have been doing tests just in case (all one line). So I have been a little bummed because although he is trying to act like he is okay either way, he looked so excited when he thought there was a chance. Tonight his mother walks up to me at a birthday party and whispers in PERFECT english (but this women can not carry a normal conversion with me), "When is the baby coming?" It took everything I had not to bust out in tears. She had some stupid dream a few days ago that I was pregnant, and called Carlos tell him about it and that she was praying it was true. She always has dreams that mean nothing. She acts like she knows things, but she guessed the sex of the baby wrong for the last 4 born in the family!!! Carlos has talked to her before about asking me about being pregnant or getting pregnant. It is a subject she is not supposed to talk about. Carlos said something to her in spanish, and she said I so sorry, you forgive me. I said yes under my breath, she walked away and the tears started. His cousin called me in to her and my goddaughters room to calm down, but of course I gave her all of Veronica's things... only took me 6.5 years to part with them so I got even more upset. I feel like his mom looks at me like I just don't want kids and am denying her more grandchildren. She already has a grandson and granddaughter from her other son. My mom ONLY has Veronica, and she doesn't put pressure on me. It took me two years with my ex-husband to get pregnant when I was 24 only to almost die and loss my daughter. I'm not looking forward to the two week waits or the stressing about trying to get pregnant. It's scary, I'm scared. I'm just so frustrated with having a baby and we haven't even officially started trying yet. After we got home he called her and put her in her place. We talked and he said he really is okay with whatever we decide, to try, adopt, just be great aunt/uncles.... I just would love to be happy and excited about the idea or trying, but not matter what I tell myself or try to connivence myself of I feel like i'm playing roulette with my future child's life and possible my own to. Sorry this is song long, I just needed to talk to people that understand.
Val (32) & Carlos (30)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
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Re: What a night :-/

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Sat Dec 17, 2011 10:38 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Sat Dec 17, 2011 10:38 pm

I understand this completely! My mothr in law does the same crap to me! So much so that I finally went off on her and now we havent spoken in months! She just continues to say the worst things to me over and over again and I finally had it! I am glad that your husband stood up for you thats important. I am so sorry for your pain you have been through so so much. I am where you are still. I have gained weight and am so uncomfortable at this weight and get pregnant. I am terrified to put a baby through even a minute of what my son went through knowing what I know now,knowing this could happen again. Then I think what if Im one of those stories on here that is ok and it doesn't happen again? Why not me? In the meantime my husband and I are starting classes to become foster to adopt parents. We are trying to keep an open mind and see whats out there. I so long though to have a healthy pregnancy and a child of my own. You are not alone. xoxo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: What a night :-/

Postby princesspurr » Sat Dec 17, 2011 10:48 pm

by princesspurr (39 Posts), Sat Dec 17, 2011 10:48 pm

(((HUGS))) It would make it so much easier if she would just be more understanding. She is one of the most judgmental people I have ever meant and hides behind "being a good Christian"... going to church every Sunday and not drinking or dancing doesn't automatically make you a good person, sigh. Her and I have been on a rocky road since the start. She wanted her son with a Puerto Rican girl and said horrible things about white people, then had the nerve to call me a gold digger and now that we are finally get married she is torturing me for a baby. Sorry you are going through this stuff to :-(
Val (32) & Carlos (30)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
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Re: What a night :-/

Postby kerisue » Tue Dec 20, 2011 10:34 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Tue Dec 20, 2011 10:34 pm

What an insensitive person Val. I'm sorry you have to deal with her. And as for the two week wait... I wish you strength to deal with however it turns out- positive or negative- either will bring up some emotions.
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
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