by uncskristy (171 Posts), Wed Jan 04, 2012 03:04 pm
Question for the others who have lost children. Which side of your family was more supportive after losing your child and since then in remembering your child- yours or your husband’s? The reason I ask is that my husband’s family has not been supportive at all. Besides his dad, mom, stepmom and grandmother, no one else showed up to Cooper’s funeral. None of his aunts, uncles or cousins sent a sympathy card and only one acknowledged Cooper’s death and that was with a facebook message. I thought I was gotten over this but over the holidays I realized neither one of my husband’s parents have pictures of Cooper up at their homes which made me think and realize that neither has even mentioned Cooper since the funeral. I know my family is far from perfect but when asked I hear my parents respond that they have three grandsons and they have copies of the few pictures up in their house we were able to take of Cooper when he was alive. The cake one of my cousins got for Blaine’s baby shower was a Tar Heel jersey with the number three on it because Blaine is son number three for us. My parents, brother and a good number of my aunts and cousins remembered Cooper’s birthday. I have a blog that I link to facebook everytime I write in it that describes how we don’t want people to be afraid to remember and mention Cooper around us because it is extremely important to us that people do remember him. So his family should know not to be afraid. I just don’t get it and have had a thought maybe they think of it more of my loss rather than my husband and I’s loss because I carried Cooper for 24 weeks. I don’t know and don’t get it. I know I should just get over it because they are not worth it and we have family members from my side that care but how do I explain this to Davis or Blaine if they ever ask why Daddy’s family does not talk about or remembers their brother.
Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
Wife to Matthew since 6/11/2005