I'm not making this up

[MissingMolly]

Okay, so I went to see my primary doctor today about possibly getting on an antidepressant, and she asked me, was I still sad because of my pregnancy? Um, yeah, it's only been a little over 2 months since my baby died and I almost died. Add to that the worry of potentially never being able to have a successful pregnancy in the future. I was crying a little and wiping the tears away, at which point she asked me, "When was the last time you saw an eye doctor? Have your eyes been leaking like that a lot?"

I have to hand it to her: She almost succeeded in making me laugh.

[caryn]

*headdesk*

[rosemary]

I am sitting here trying to think of something to say...the only word that comes to my mind is...unbelievable. It's hard to imagine that a doctor could be so out of touch, or just seem so insensitive. I'm sorry that was her response. Always remember that there are other doctors out there that can help. You deserve to be listened to and treated with care and compassion. Doctoring is about a lot more than tests and meds. Wishing you peace and healing. (((HUGS)))

[sam10]

speechless, that's what I am!

[holly3372@msn.com]

UGH!!! Really? Wow what an asshole!!! Yep that's exactly what I have to say. I am sure you won't see her again! I cried a river the first year and didn't sleep for almost 6 months!! So sorry!!!

[Shannonlynn]

I'm really sorry about her insensitivity. I can't talk about the subject of my son's birth and death without at least tearing up, if not balling my eyes out. It's been nine months and it will always be there. I hope you find a caring physician to help you on your journey.

[MissingMolly]

Thanks, ladies. I get the sense that she is just one of those people who is not very emotional or who doesn't have a very high emotional IQ--and it's pretty obvious she's never experienced such a loss. I was glad in a certain sense that she said that, though, because it reminded me to tell her about the visual disturbance I had in the store the other day. A cloudiness descended over part of my right eye and had a bright (like lightening) edge to it. It went away after about 20 minutes. Also, my blood pressure when I went in to see her was 168/110 so she put me on metoprolol. I don't understand what's going on with my body! My blood pressures were always 110s/60s until I hit the 2nd trimester. Do the after-effects of pre-e/HELLP usually last this long? So frustrating. Pretty soon, I'm going to be a walking pharmacy.

Good doctors are so hard to find. I've rarely encountered a doctor I like--sad, but true. I'm somewhat restricted right now because I have an HMO, but I plan on switching to a PPO as soon as I get the chance.

[m]

That is unbelievably insensitive! If it wasn't so horrible, it would be funny. I guess I should be grateful that my primary doctor was so great about helping me through my second pregnancy.

[kerisue]

Some physicians just don't get it. I saw my primary care doc just a couple weeks after Millie died. She was so cold and clinical and just threw the anti-depressants at me as if that would solve everything. I hadn't even asked for them and at that point didn't even want them! I'm so sorry you got someone insensitive like that too. (I will say that later on- months later- I found the anti-d's helpful.)

[angieb]

ugh.

hugs to you.