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Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby mychaelelaine » Mon Jan 09, 2012 09:24 am

by mychaelelaine (195 Posts), Mon Jan 09, 2012 09:24 am

Hi everyone!

I'm so sad to be here and read all of your stories BUT comforted that so many people know what I am going through. I posted earlier but made some mistakes ( ;) ) so I will repost. I lost my daughter October 17th. Basically, my doctors missed my preeclampsia. I had gone to my pcp on October 12th because of carpal tunnel syndrome. She sent me directly to triage because of my swollen ankles (hadn't even noticed) and high blood pressure. She suspected preeclampsia. I had chronic hbp since 2007 and was on meds. I also have lupus. My MFM advised me to stop taking the meds when my bp became normal for some reason 2 months into the pregnancy. Turns out, my bp was high actually on three occasions before I delivered my daughter including my visit to triage on October 12th.

The triage doctor never checked my urine for protein. If she had, she would've most likely discovered protein. Anyway, she discharged me with blood pressure never going below 171/100. I was given two Labetelol tablets while in triage. I was happy when she told me I didn't have preeclampsia. I did. :cry: I don't know for certain if I had preeclampsia that night. All I know is my baby's heart was beating strong and I ended up in the ER four days later and had my daughter the next day. I also had HELLP. We held her for about an hour. It was sweet. I will try again once my blood pressure is stabelized. Thanks for reading. :D
10/17/2011 ~ Mychael Elaine was born sleeping. We miss and will always love you!
9/16/2012 ~ Michael Leon was born, God is so good! Severe pre-e again, induced at 34 weeks, c-section due to baby's heart decelerating with each contraction. 1 week in NICU. I'm done! :)
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Re: Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby rosemary » Mon Jan 09, 2012 08:10 pm

by rosemary (2360 Posts), Mon Jan 09, 2012 08:10 pm

Hello there...and welcome. I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I am sad too that you had to find us due to your loss and ordeal with PE/HELLP. Please know that you are welcomed to post here as often as you like. We're here to listen and help in any way that we can. I wish you peace and healing.
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Momma to Kayleigh 8/25/88 - 36 weeks
Elliott 8/29/04 - lost at 20 weeks due to severe PE/HELLP
Proud Grandma to Max Allen 10/19/10.
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Re: Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby kerisue » Mon Jan 09, 2012 11:00 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Mon Jan 09, 2012 11:00 pm

I'm so so sorry that you only had one hour with your sweet baby, you should have had a lifetime. Preeclampsia took my daughter too.
Mama to Millie
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
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Re: Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Wed Jan 11, 2012 05:58 am

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Wed Jan 11, 2012 05:58 am

I am so sorry for you loss and sadly yes you are not alone we here understand your pain. Sending much love to you and your famliy xo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby cmccaffrey » Wed Jan 11, 2012 12:43 am

by cmccaffrey (458 Posts), Wed Jan 11, 2012 12:43 am

I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost our little boy October 13, 2010 and there is no pain like it. I hope you take some time to grieve and to find your health. *hugs*
Christa (25) & J (26)
Mommy to:
Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby mychaelelaine » Wed Jan 11, 2012 01:34 pm

by mychaelelaine (195 Posts), Wed Jan 11, 2012 01:34 pm

thanks guys! i really appreciate the support. i hate the circumstances that brought me here, but i'm happy there is a preeclampsia.org. it means so much to be surrounded by so many people who truly know how losing a baby due to preeclampsia feels. :(
10/17/2011 ~ Mychael Elaine was born sleeping. We miss and will always love you!
9/16/2012 ~ Michael Leon was born, God is so good! Severe pre-e again, induced at 34 weeks, c-section due to baby's heart decelerating with each contraction. 1 week in NICU. I'm done! :)
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Re: Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby sam10 » Wed Jan 11, 2012 07:39 pm

by sam10 (1436 Posts), Wed Jan 11, 2012 07:39 pm

I am so sorry you lost your baby. Be gentle with yourself and allow some time for healing. Thinking of you and your little one.
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Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: Lost my daughter October 17th (Mychael)

Postby mychaelelaine » Wed Jan 11, 2012 07:42 pm

by mychaelelaine (195 Posts), Wed Jan 11, 2012 07:42 pm

sam10 wrote:I am so sorry you lost your baby. Be gentle with yourself and allow some time for healing. Thinking of you and your little one.


Thank you!
10/17/2011 ~ Mychael Elaine was born sleeping. We miss and will always love you!
9/16/2012 ~ Michael Leon was born, God is so good! Severe pre-e again, induced at 34 weeks, c-section due to baby's heart decelerating with each contraction. 1 week in NICU. I'm done! :)
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