Oh my gosh, I am so very sorry you lost your precious little girl to this terrible disease! It is something that is very heartbreaking and takes time to deal with. For me it has been 2 years since I lost my little Henry and it is still sad and I still miss him every day. I never "got over it", and I never will, but it gets easier as time passes. Please allow yourself to grieve, to heal, to recover physically and do what is needed to help you through each day. Unfortunately, there are always people who say the wrong things at the wrong moment. I have told people if they were off and most of them recognized it afterwards.
I understand your fear of never having any children, especially after losing one. We become aware of how fragile life can be. You will know when you will be ready to try again and until then, be gentle with yourself and let people know what your needs are, even if it is to leave you alone! Sending you hugs.
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011Henry
(1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeksMatilda
(Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE
Our pain has been put into words, placed into empty cradles, to remember that all our babies lived, that they mattered and always will. - Field of Cradles http://www.fieldofcradles.org/