I am so sorry about your loss and upsetting dr's visit. Here is my experience - after the twins both ob and MFM told me to have blood work to rule put thrombophilia, clotting disorders and common autoimmune disorders, and not to have another twin pregnancy. They were OK to start TTC after 1-2 cycles but most importantly when I felt mentally and emotionally ready. I had vaginal delivery w the twins (there were 1 lb each) and c section in 2004.
Just like many others, looking back I REALLY NEEDED those 6 months to recover, even though mine and my husband's advanced age was advancing further. Getting pg without even TTC, with a due date 51 weeks after the twins' due date, was a big surprise, but tells me I was ready. Also, I remember reading something about having a lower chance of subsequent pre-e with the same partner if the pregnancies are closer together .. maybe Caryn or our moderators will have some research evidence for us ....
son 4/2004 subchorionic hematoma but full term, healthy
1/2011 stillborn twins (IVF) due to severe IUGR/ pre-e 23+3 wks, chronic htn
Jason born 3/21/12, 35w 6 days, healthy 4 lbs 15 oz, 18 in, no pre-e but oligo/iugr, 1 week of NICU for hypoglycemia and mild RDS, doing great ! (thank you labetalol, lda, lovenox and my drs!)