whoa whoa whoa... what do I even say first? LOL... If my husband had been around if a doctor said that to me, the guy would have a headache and probably be looking for a new line of work. How dare he say that. How many times has he given birth, let alone dealt with your other issues. Sorry... composure... Happy Mother's Day. That's what I needed to say first.
I really sympathize regarding the hemorrhoid. I had my first the weekend before last and was MISERABLE. It was the size of a grape and bleeding (sorry if too much information). Of course it happened on the weekend, so I didn't have my doctor readily available. I probably could have called a nurse on call, but was stubborn to tough it out. I think it raised my BP about 10 points, maybe from the pain. Anyway, my nurse called me in some Anusol HC suppositories. They have a steroid in them. After only 4 hours, it shrunk by 50%, and I had immediate pain relief. It was nearly gone after a couple days. I was amazed and VERY grateful. Maybe you could ask for something like that? I've heard that vaginal deliveries only complicate them. I'm having a planned C section. Are you too?
If they are thrombotic (blood clotting & purple) they can be a real problem and may need immediate surgery. I'm hoping the surgeon that examined you determined that wasn't the case.
What does your OB and Peri think of the shivering and shaking? Are they in the loop on this? Sounds like your OB would have wanted blood work. They could assume the BP is up from stress & pain you're having with the hemorrhoid, but I'd think a doctor would want to make sure.
Prayers are with you.
Miscarriage Feb 05 & Dec 07
Daniel born Feb 09 at 27w5d, 1 lb 1 oz/12 inches (severe IUGR) due to Severe Pre-E & HELLP. Now tall for age and no complications.
Diagnosed with MTHFR
Cornual Ectopic miscarriage Mar 11
Natalie born 6-5-12 at full term, 7 lb 11 oz & 21.5 inches, progesterone 2-8 weeks (for suspected luteal phase defect), lovenox 6-29 weeks, lda 0-36 weeks, folic.