Lost my sister. Lost without my sister.

[blythe]

I am so very, very sorry about your sister's death.

I wish I had solid answers for you, mothers do die of preeclampsia/eclampsia/HELLP today, even in the US, even when they have no risk factors like PCOS or obesity. We don't know exactly how many, but it is too many. Preeclampsia is sometimes slow-moving - the average time from diagnosis to delivery is two weeks, but that average encompasses women who stay relatively stable for weeks or months, and women on the other end of the spectrum who are delivered right away at term - or who get deathly sick in hours. We've had women on our boards who were "fine" at a noon appointment and in full organ failure at 2am that night. We've had women who didn't seem very sick until after they had their babies, and then died postpartum. I am so very sorry that your sister got sick so quickly and died so tragically.

Please let us know any other questions you have, or ask us to keep explaining. Wrapping our minds around this disease is hard in the best of circumstances.

[blythe]

I am soo sorry to hear about your sister. I would love to talk to you as we lost our Daughter in December of 2008 after she delivered her first child too (girl named Abby who is very healthy..) My home phone is *** and cell ***. I know the road of grief is a terrible road and not one we ask for. I am here for you if you wish to contact me. Sending you (((HUGS)))

Cindi Hillman

[blythe]

Sorry to interject this here, but I want to make sure you can contact each other!

Thanks to everyone who has shared phone numbers and support! Because this forum is publicly searchable we do not post contact info - this protects everyone - but please do share via the forum messaging and email. Click on the username to get to the person's profile, and check the email you used when you registered for the forum for replies. Also check at the top of the page - on my screen it's the third line down in a slightly darker pink - that says "User Control Panel (0 messages) * View your posts". When you have private messages it will say the number of messages you have waiting (1 new messages)(etc), just click on the number and it will take you to the inbox for your forum account. Please feel free to email me if you need help! Heather.Curtis@preeclampsia.org

[joker]

I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. There are no simple, easy answers with preeclampsia/HELLP. Unfortunately, it can and does happen fast. I know for myself, I was fine one day and 24hrs later admitted and in organ failure. Please know that you are not alone, all of us on this board have lost someone to this terrible disease. I lost my daughter almost five years ago and I am still traumatized by how everything happened so quickly and went so terribly wrong. Big hugs to you and your brother in law and new neice. Please, come here to ask questions and grieve, we are all here for you.

[chillman]

I am soooo sorry to hear this yet another sad story.. I did private message you and I am here for you any time of the day or night. I will hold your family in my arms and pray for all of you daily as do the other families that have gone through this terrible dreaded disease that should not be taking lives in 2012

Cindi Hillman

[jenn]

Norinda,
I'm deeply saddened by your loss. Please know my thoughts are with you and your family.
My family has been effected by a sudden loss to preeclampsia as well. My stepsons lost their mother and unborn baby brother unexpectedly about 6 years ago to Preeclampsia.
Please know I understand the pain you're feeling.
I'm here if there is anything I can do to help.

sincerely, Jenn

[aajatwins]

I am so sorry for your loss.
Unfortunately, going straight to eclampsia is less common (at least from what I've seen here) and, possibly, more traumatic. I was in the hospital when I seized and I'm sure that's why I survived. It is so overwhelming to be blindsided with something like eclampsia.

What a wonderful aunt you are to help take care of that sweet baby girl and her daddy. I pray you all find clarity and peace and that this forum will help support you through this journey.

[kathyc]

I am so sorry. This disease is terrible. There are just no words for what you and your family have been through.

There are many who will listen to you and grieve with you here. You are not alone.

[amanda]

Norinda -
I wanted to write and let you know I am so sorry to read about your sister! Your post is the one that has me out of hibernation - losing women due to childbirth makes me so mad! And sad. Really really sad.

Words fail me sometimes but I wanted to let you know that I saw this and am thinking of you this morning.

Please, if you want, stay posting. You will get lots of support.

[Shannonlynn]

I am so sorry your family has to go through such sadness. Words really can't describe any of it. And your little niece will grow up without her mommy. I will be thinking of your family. Again, so sorry. Shannon