by arwen (12 Posts), Wed Jul 18, 2012 03:36 pm
I guess this is another thing that aggravates me. The OB I see the most out of my practice is the one who delivered my daughter. I hadn't seen him much before she was born, the OB that I saw most was delivering someone else at another hospital and couldn't get to me in time, so he was her backup. I had seen him when I had the flu, and he said he had no problems with aggressive management of my situation, including hospitalization, which made me feel better, especially since he said he'd tell my insurance company where to go if they gave me problems. He was awesome during the delivery. Totally calm, totally okay with modifying things because I was having a hard time breathing and we were nearing the 24-hour mark since my water broke and I was utterly drained. When I swelled up so badly in the weeks that followed, when breastfeeding turned out to be such a train wreck, he was really, really good. Even though we didn't know what was going on, he had no problems with my coming in a lot. Eventually I had to be referred out, my GP sent me for heart tests and blood tests and urine tests (no 24-hr urine though, in retrospect, I wonder if that would have revealed anything), but I made sure to keep my OB posted and he was great about that too.
Now, I feel like things were just brushed off by him, and that he's pushing vaginal birth no matter what. I can't even get a proper pro/con analysis out of anyone in the practice, everyone just seems to want to take a wait-and-see approach. All they want to do is induce, even though I've told them I've basically been down that road before, I barely got through it, and that was with a relatively normal pregnancy. They're treating this possible PE like it's predictable, when I know from this site that PE can suddenly blow up so it's NOT predictable. I can't take any more wait-and-see. My nerves just won't handle it at this point. I want a plan, even if it doesn't have deadlines or timeframes, even if it's just a flow chart of if this, then that. And I'm hoping this MFM specialist will be better about laying out pros and cons and figuring out a plan.