I'm delivering no later than 36 or 37 weeks due to my classical c-section.
My friends who have had stillbirths (though theirs were both unexplained/unknown reasons), both delivered early because of their history of stillbirth. One had an amnio at almost 37 weeks but his lungs weren't ready yet and she was induced at 38 weeks, ended up having a c-section due to decelerations during contractions, baby was fine. My other friend was induced with just cervical ripening stuff and then went on to have a natural birth and had a healthy baby right at 39 weeks. (She was given the option to do an amnio and deliver at 37 weeks, and our MFM would have really preferred that.) Both of them also had twice weekly NST's with fluid checks and doctor's appointments from 32 weeks on.
I don't blame you for wanting to deliver earlier, (I have no desire to go a day longer than 37 weeks), I would remind them of your history of stillbirth as well and see if that makes a difference.
After my first pregnancy, with Luke, my MFM expected me to be on bedrest by 24-28 weeks. My OB's "goal" for my pregnancy was to get me to 28 weeks. They were both pretty shocked that I never got sick, even with gestational diabetes and notching and my blood pressure a little labile the last few weeks, no pre-e. You may surprise them.
Me (29) DH (30)
#1-Olivia Caetlyn-9-28-09-9-28-09, 23+2 wks, emergency classic c-section, class I HELLP, IUGR
#2- Lucas Oliver (rainbow baby)- April 2011, 36+2 wks, HELLP and pre-e free! (lovenox and LDA pregnancy)
#3-Matthew, late October 2012...mostly normal, 37 wks, (lovenox and LDA again)
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