by angieb (1194 Posts), Thu Aug 30, 2012 10:18 pm
I'm so sorry for your loss.
In my first pregnancy, I got sick and had to deliver at 23 weeks and our daughter passed away. My 2nd pregnancy was relatively uneventful- DS was born at 36 wks- no pre-e or hellp. I'm in my third pregnancy and a few hours away from 29 weeks, so almost 6 weeks farther than we made it the first time, no real signs of trouble, even my doctors are pretty confident this time might be the easiest pregnancy yet.
So yes, there are many of us here who lost babies and went on to have healthy pregnancies the next time. Pregnancy again is definitely extremely stressful (though this third time has been much easier- it helps having a toddler to chase around all day and keep me busy.)I wasn't really afraid of dying, once our daughter died, I was okay with dying with her if it happened and was pretty angry for a long time later that I survived and she didn't. But I have an OB and MFM that I trust and I know they take my concerns seriously and are not going to let things get that bad. I am comfortable I know the signs and symptoms and what to watch out for and am comfortable calling them or even just going in to the hospital if something comes up. Most of the women in the US and similar countries who die from preeclampsia, it happens in their first pregnancies. They may think what they are experiencing is normal, they may not have a medical professional taking them very seriously, etc. In a subsequent pregnancy, you are hyperaware of ANYTHING that might be trouble, and hopefully you will have a medical team you trust and that will take you seriously and monitor you closely.
Me (29) DH (30)
#1-Olivia Caetlyn-9-28-09-9-28-09, 23+2 wks, emergency classic c-section, class I HELLP, IUGR
#2- Lucas Oliver (rainbow baby)- April 2011, 36+2 wks, HELLP and pre-e free! (lovenox and LDA pregnancy)
#3-Matthew, late October 2012...mostly normal, 37 wks, (lovenox and LDA again)
My blog: http://www.butterflies-and-rainbows.blogspot.com/