I can tell you, with all honesty, that you husband does not view you as a "lazy mess". We struggle because we can't fix you, because we can't make you better. All we can do is try to help you, try to make it a little bit easier. At times, as husbands, we feel helpless. Knowing that there is nothing that we can do to make it better is a tough realization. Trust me when I tell you, after the first few hours, we realize how terrible bed rest is; after a few days of talking with doctors we realize how serious PE is and how important bed rest is to you and the baby. He, like me, is just trying to figure out how to help you. While we try to pretend, we are scared too.
We got our second 24hr urine catch results today and I'm happy to say we went from 600mg to 230mg. While we are now under the PE diagnostic we are still PE. That will never change.
As for diet I can only offer what has worked for us:
Breakfast: Grain Cereal (Special K, Shredded Wheat, Wheatbex) or Eggs - yolk cooked through + a banana
Lunch: Salad (including kidney beans and chic peas) or a lean protein
Afternoon: bowl of berries (blue, raspberry or strawberry) - 12oz/20oz fresh juice that has spinach, kale, celery, and beet juice (always include beet juice)
Dinner: A lean protein with fresh vegetables (steam)
After Dinner: A little dark chocolate - semi sweet with at least 60% coco.
Always: Water, more than you'd normally drink per day. No more salt, no more full fat dairy, reduce the amount of carbs.
All of these foods have been proven to help reduce BP. This, in no way, is a diet that prevents or reduces PE, it's simply the approach we took and it seems to work for us. We were diagnosed at 32+4 and are now at 36+1.
The best thing you can do right now is own the fact you have EP. Take bed rest very seriously, take your diet very seriously.
We are now 19 days of strict bed rest. T now refers to me as man Friday and I think she is starting to enjoy the Wife - Butler relationship. This is our first and we never expected that we'd be on bed rest. As such, we did not complete all of the pre-baby shopping which left the final odds and ends to me. She was elated to hear my experience of shopping for nursing bras. I am not lying when I tell you the stores name was "The Upper Breast Side". I guess my point is, as husbands, we love you and will do whatever is necessary to make you laugh, make you safe, and make you smile.
Please let me know if you have anymore questions. I'm going to continue to check this site. So many on this forum have given me great advice and I'm excited to pay that forward.
Hope this helps