by olivejuice0806 (64 Posts), Wed Sep 05, 2012 07:12 pm
I had a pregnancy in 1999 that ended in an emergency c-section due to HELLP. I have since divorced and remarried, and my current husband and I had a beautiful little girl in 2007 with very mild pre-e symptoms that didn't even start until 39 weeks, and my doctor decided to deliver immediately. I am currently 29 weeks pregnant, and have had bp issues off and on since 14 weeks. I am being followed by my ob and an mfm. I also take my bp 3 times a day at home. The last few days, my bp has started to rise, and my highest reading was last night at 136/96. Of course, I am SCARED TO DEATH. My husband's response is to tell me it's all in my head, and that I shouldn't let the doctor convince me that I need to be on bed rest because we can't afford for me to not work. Now don't get me wrong, my husband is normally a sweet and wonderful man. Heck, I dropped a perfectly good smart phone in a cup of coffee last week and he surprised me with an iphone to replace it. I just don't know how to get it into his head that I need his support right now. I told him at 14 weeks that the high bp's scared me. I know my hormones are out of control right now, but now on top of all the other things that scared me about bed rest, pre-e, HELLP, having a preemie, I am scared that he is going to blame me for anything bad that happens to our baby because "it's all in my head". Any advice on how to talk to a man who thinks my fears are hypo-chondria?
Baby #1 PE 11/3/1993 39 weeks 7lbs. 4oz.
Baby #2 Severe PE/HELLP 9/21/1999 31 weeks 4lbs. 2oz
Baby #3 Mild PE 6/1/2007 39 weeks 7lbs. 1oz.
Baby #4 PE 10/31/2012 37 weeks 6lbs. 11 oz.