Dealing with ignorance

[tree]

I am re-reading my post from last night and realizing just how different this situation is when you have actually experienced a loss. Some of my friends really cannot understand why I think we got lucky and had a good outcome. The reality of how many women have lost babies to this horrible disease provides a very stark contrast to eventually going home with a healthy kid and slowly recovering.
One calm approach is to say that the most recent studies have shown much better outcomes for mothers and babies with any signs of PE if delivery occurs at 37 weeks. You and your doctor have agreed to follow this guidance to give your family the best chance at a healthy mom and baby. For many of us, waiting until 39-40 weeks can lead to a worse outcome, and you want to do what is best for your baby.
In the past, I have said nasty things about not having the luxury to plan my home birth with naked hippies walking around the birthing tub serving trays of granola and fighting off evil IV wielding doctors (I am a dirty hippie in real life), but that is some what less productive.

[holly3372@msn.com]

lol well said! I have said things like that too, we were planning on having an at home water birth yikes ,seems like another lifetime ago and some other woman planning it other then the person I have become today after losing Ben . Well, here's to dealing best we can with ignorance and to us hippies ha ha!!

[princess purr]

I post all over facebook about losing my daughter, and when/if I get pregnant I think I plan to be very public about it because these kind of things are always something that "happens to someone else." They aren't "real". It is scary, and I refuse to go it alone, if people are ignorant, I'm going to educate them real fast. Who knows, maybe it will save someone's life. I would love to be in the prefect everything is going to go great, start buying baby stuff at 12 week bubble, but I'm not, but it doesn't mean I should have to hide my joy/sorrow/fears from everyone next time around.

[holly3372@msn.com]

You are right,I agree you should do what feels right for you. I am honestly not a facebook person in general ( I know weird lol) so I kept my stuff off that particular site. I didn't mean to bash facebook personally. I do however open my mouth every chance I can , voulnteer at many functions with preeclampsia brochures in hand!

[olivejuice0806]

I do put things on Facebook because our friends and family are very spread out and it is a lot easier to put something on Facebook once than text or call 50 people and tell it 50 times. The downside to that convenience is that you get some unsolicited opinions. But I agree that if there is one woman who gains awareness about PE/HELLP because I was willing to deal with some ignorance, then it is well worth it.

[sam10]

I like the naked dance around the tub too, but not for the birth of this baby:-) maybe in my next life

As for FB you can restrict (you probably know) who gets to see a post or not. Perhaps this can help to keep some unsolicited advice at bay.

My family and friends are far (many of them in Europe), so I do send status updates via email; and I use skype a lot, which is great, as I can show my belly live.