Going for another try to have a baby! Scared, excited!

[whereowhere]

Hi everyone,
Just looking for some moral support and maybe some more information as I go along. Long story short, in the three years I have been married and trying to have children, I have had an ectopic pregnancy, a surgery for uterine fibroids, a miscarriage, and in April I lost my twin boy and girl at 21 weeks to severe preeclampsia. I conceived the first two pregnancies naturally, and the twins we conceived through IVF. We are set to do a frozen embryo transfer of only one embryo this time in the second week of October, only 6 months from the day I delivered the twins. I am so excited and so scared at the same time, worried that the preeclampsia may be related to the IVF in my case, and yet feel we need to use one of our frozen embryos since we have several and do not want to discard them. They are precious to us! I am also dealing with my age, I will be 40 in November! I thought I would be a joyful mother of twins the day I turned 40, and now I may be in the early stages of a pregnancy that I am just praying will result in a beautiful rainbow baby that could bring some joy into my sorrow. Any moral support, encouragement from anyone, or even any older mothers out there would help so much!

[trish]

I'm so sorry for all of your losses. (((HUGS))) While IVF and being an older mom can be risk factors for PE it can just as easily happen to younger mothers who conceived naturally. I'm sure you will have a host of Dr.'s monitoring you in your next pregnancy and hopefully, even if PE shows up again it will be much closer to term.

Everyone here is so nice and so supportive. Just keep posting anytime you have any questions or concerns or feel like you are the only one dealing with x, y or z and I'm sure you will get lots of responses from the ladies here who have BTDT. I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd a few weeks before I turned 38 and once you get past your OB/GYN folder marked up with AMA in big red letter, being an older mom isn't so bad! LOL! My little surprise is almost 5 and I wouldn't trade her for the world.

Best wishes to you!

[holly3372@msn.com]

Hi! I can relate to both the fear of having preeclampsia and the age thing. My first pregnancy I delivered at 26 weeks due to severe preeclampsia. I was 38 years old. After a 4 month Nicu stay we had to make the horrible decision to withdraw support as our son was not getting better and would be vent dependent . The docs felt he would not live much longer and so did we. We knew he was suffering at that point.

It is 2 years gone by. We weren't for sure about trying again. I think it took time for us to do some healing. In the end the desire to have and love a baby was more then my fears of this happening again. I felt I would regret it if i didnn't go for it one more time! So, here I am . I am 40 years old. I am 22 weeks pregnant. So far so good. I am in the thick of the scariest pasrts of this pregnancy for any woman who has had preeclampsia. I have no idea what tomorrow will bring so I just do my best to stay calm , and hopeful. I can feel my baby moving and never really felt this with my son. It is amazing. Yes, I am scared. This site, my husband ,family and friends have been a great support to me. I have heard so many stories of women that went on to have a healthy take home baby after having a loss from preeclampsia. May you and I be one of those stories. It's not bad being 40 and pregnant by the way, it's kind of cool!! I hope this helps .