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is 4mths too early ?

Postby bsherricca » Mon Sep 24, 2012 03:23 pm

by bsherricca (44 Posts), Mon Sep 24, 2012 03:23 pm

panic attack last night ..am i ttc too early ? it has been 4 months since our loss. my doc has done the usual tests (clotting disorders etc.....nothing) he has said i can go ahead and ttc . i have been one month on bc because of my pcos but my arms are so empty ...is it too early ? how long did u guys wait to TTC after PE ?
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Re: is 4mths too early ?

Postby sam10 » Mon Sep 24, 2012 04:29 pm

by sam10 (1436 Posts), Mon Sep 24, 2012 04:29 pm

The decision when to TTC after a loss (assuming that the docs gave the green light) is very personal and varies from person to person. I was not allowed to start before 9 months after I gave birth due to my classical c-section (due to my age the doc allowed an earlier start than what is usually recommended after a classical) . And after this 9 month waiting period, I was not ready. I was panicked and emotionally just not there yet. We decided to wait until Henry's first birthday. For us, this felt exactly right.
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Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: is 4mths too early ?

Postby angieb » Mon Sep 24, 2012 05:36 pm

by angieb (1192 Posts), Mon Sep 24, 2012 05:36 pm

My OB told me 3 months,my MFM said 6 months (due to the classical c-section). We started TTC right at 3 months but in reality it took just under a year for me to get pregnant. In hindsight, I am VERY glad we had that year...I didn't think we "needed" it, but in hindsight, we definitely did. Grief is exhausting and draining, TTC again after a loss SUCKS--you worry about getting pregnant (and if you can), you worry about your next pregnancy, it just stinks. But nothing can really prepare you for how hard a subsequent pregnancy is, it is so incredibly stressful and emotional and draining. I am glad that the grief was *as* fresh because it would have just made both the pregnancy and getting through that first year all the more difficult.
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#1-Olivia Caetlyn-9-28-09-9-28-09, 23+2 wks, emergency classic c-section, class I HELLP, IUGR
#2- Lucas Oliver (rainbow baby)- April 2011, 36+2 wks, HELLP and pre-e free! (lovenox and LDA pregnancy)
#3-Matthew, late October 2012...mostly normal, 37 wks, (lovenox and LDA again)
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Re: is 4mths too early ?

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Mon Sep 24, 2012 07:14 pm

by holly3372@msn.com (478 Posts), Mon Sep 24, 2012 07:14 pm

I agree that after the docs green light , it then becomes a personal decision. I too had a classical csection. I was told after 9 months, then also decided after Ben's first birthday had passed, then after the first death date. Well, almost 2 years later now I am pregnant again at age 40!! I never thought I would be in this place. However, like others have said I too needed time to grieve and process so so much. I still grieve my son., I always will but I am in a much different place today then I was before. Am I scared, oh yes but I feel more able to cope at this point. Only you will know what's right for you. It is not easy and you are not alone. Let yourself feel what you are feeling and go from there. Thinking of you.
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: is 4mths too early ?

Postby princess purr » Mon Sep 24, 2012 09:05 pm

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Mon Sep 24, 2012 09:05 pm

I was told 6 to 9 months, but to give myself time to emotionally heal...well it's been almost 8 years and I have divorced and remarried and honestly, I am still waking up in a panic every once in awhile at the thought of trying again. I'm going through the retesting process right now since it has been so long and who knows what has changed, but I'm still scared. I think after losing a baby a person is always going to be nervous when try again. So, just follow your heart and good luck!
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Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: is 4mths too early ?

Postby bsherricca » Wed Oct 10, 2012 11:12 am

by bsherricca (44 Posts), Wed Oct 10, 2012 11:12 am

i have a consult with a fertility specialist this evening ....i'm nervous ....we've only been trying a few weeks but as soon as i was off the bc on came the hot flashes ...sighs ...wish me luck...i'm praying for good news we are trying to avoid clomid this time ...wish me luck ...so nervous !!!
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