This article has some helpful thoughts both for those with a recent loss and for those who are a few years out:
http://stillstandingmag.com/2012/12/coping-with-the-holidays/
My advice would be to do only what you feel up to; nothing more. For anyone who has lost a baby recently, please know that it will get better. The first year of holidays was the hardest for me and each year, while still difficult, has been easier.
