by princess purr (1092 Posts), Sat Dec 29, 2012 09:22 am
It is a really personal choice. I would say talk to good doctor like a MRM or peri so you can see if there are any meds you should be taken before hand or early in the pregnancy. I can't say what I would do because my daughter was born at 26.5 weeks and did not make it. I have said if I have a good pregnancy I might try for one more, If I end up with early preeclampsia again I want my tubes tied during the C-section. I can tell you that loosing a child totally and completely changes your life. I can't sugar coat it. You spend a lot of time wondering what if, a lot of time thinking about how old that child would be. It has been over 8 years for me, and I still have moments (not as many) that I will see something on tv that makes me sob for an hour because I should have an 8 year old and have no children. I have a friend that had two little girls, got remarried lost two little boys at 22 weeks (two separate pregnancies, not from PE), and now just had a full term little girl. You never know what is going to happen, you could get pregnant again and not get PE. You just have to really think it out, think what your family/marriage can handle. After a few years after I lost my daughter I did end up getting divorced, we just grieved differently and couldn't make things work anymore. Good luck with whatever you decide, and I hope if you do decide to go for it you will have a successful pregnancy!
Val (34) & Carlos (32)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!