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Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby princess purr » Sun Jan 27, 2013 01:20 pm

I know there is that two year window/seven year window... and I'm 8 years out now. I also got divorced and married to someone else.... I'm giving myself a 50/50 chance because it is just all so different now... and I'm either going to get PE again or not get PE again.... Just so frustrating not to have a crystal ball that will tell me if/when I will get pregnant... if the baby will be okay... if I will be okay... I know no one has that, but it just seems like for the most part people see two lines, start making great plans, and then have a healthy baby... I want to badly to be excited about trying, and everything that goes with it but I'm truly terrified. Since so many things are different, and I will be on LDA and heparin when I do get pregnant I feel like I have a better chance now then I did the first time, but I'm scared... and I'm so bad with the unknown and waiting... I guess I just needed to vent!!
Val (34) & Carlos (32)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby kaxy » Sun Jan 27, 2013 03:57 pm

I hear ya. All we can do is hope for the best and choose caregivers we're comfortable with! Good luck!
DS born Dec. 2008 at 38.5w gestation. Mild PE diagnosed 3 hours before he was born
DD born Dec. 2010 at 40w1d. BP was slightly elevated since 37w, and climbed while in labor (started on my own). Severe PE diagnosed hours after DD born.
DD born Sept. 2013 at 38w. Induced (and I had to fight for it!) due to high blood pressure. No protein, but had brisk reflexes and clonus after delivery. Doc gave me a mild preeclampsia diagnosis anyway and said I'm likely to be a chronic hypertensive later in life.
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby kerisue » Mon Jan 28, 2013 00:44 am

During the year I was actively trying it was SUCH an emotional roller coaster- all those things you're thinking, wondering, worrying about. I'm so glad you're with a supportive spouse and are emotionally strong. Good luck!!
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby Rubbie78 » Wed Jan 30, 2013 04:49 pm

Vent all you want. It's emotions and feelings and they come and go. 'After surviving HELLP, it's hard to not wonder about things that are out of our control. I do not know about the 2yr/7yr window. I hope you're having a good day today.
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby MomTimesThree » Fri Feb 01, 2013 00:09 am

It's sooo frustrating not having a crystal ball, and so many things are unknown. One thing I took comfort in was knowing that, even though everything was totally out of my control- what was firmly in control was myself. You go into your next pregnancy a completely different person. There is no naivete. You know your body better than any MD you'll ever see and you are so keenly aware of what can happen. You understand so much more about the disease and are a completely different partner to your medical team in the process.

Whatever your decision, and whenever you choose to make it I wish you the most amount of peace possible.
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2008-Our Baby Girl, PTL born too early at 30w6d, Fought so hard... Forever Loved & Missed
2010- Lil' Bro, Pre-E at 29 weeks... Induced at 36w6d, Born 37w
2012- Lil' Sis, Super-imposed pre-e at 25 weeks, PTL & GD at 35 weeks, Evicted 36w
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby flori » Sat Feb 16, 2013 09:03 pm

I hear ya, mama. We aren't even actively trying yet, but I am freaking out! Had a looooooooooooooooong cycle 60ish days and AF finally came during our vacation, but it was a relief to have it. At day 35 I started to get worried and by day 45 I had convinced myself that I had lost my chance at trying to conceive naturally because my cycles were totally off now and that led to even more negative thought, haha.

Anyway, I'm excited you and Carlos are trying! And good job on WW!! I read your updates on FB and am so proud of you.

Fun's over for me. I managed to stay the same weight during our three weeks away from real life, but now it's time to get serious. 25 more pounds by June is the goal.
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Mommy to Gracie- born at 25 weeks 03/15/11, 11 inches, 1.1lbs, and absolutely beautiful. Became my sweet angel the next day.
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby MomTimesThree » Sun Feb 17, 2013 02:34 pm

For what its worth, we conceived #3 on CD 40 something!
2008-Our Baby Girl, PTL born too early at 30w6d, Fought so hard... Forever Loved & Missed
2010- Lil' Bro, Pre-E at 29 weeks... Induced at 36w6d, Born 37w
2012- Lil' Sis, Super-imposed pre-e at 25 weeks, PTL & GD at 35 weeks, Evicted 36w
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby princess purr » Sun Mar 03, 2013 09:10 am

When I got pregnant with Veronica I o'd on cd37! This cycle was bust, didn't o until cd31, we had good timing and I swore I felt implantation cramps 9dpo but af showed up 13dpo and my lp is normally 12 days. So, on to the next cycle. My cycle tends to be 32 days normally, with o on cd 20... so this first 15ish days of the cycle feel like a total waste LOL
Val (34) & Carlos (32)
Married: April 29th 2011
Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks (1 lb 4oz, 14 inches) because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
Nicholas Robert, 11/22/2013 7 lb 7oz 19.5 inches, born at 36 weeks (due to previous classical c-section) PE FREE!!!!!!
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Re: Feel soooo unsure about how to feel...

Postby MomTimesThree » Sun Mar 03, 2013 02:59 pm

Aw boo. 13 days is a great LP though!

Sending baby dust!
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2010- Lil' Bro, Pre-E at 29 weeks... Induced at 36w6d, Born 37w
2012- Lil' Sis, Super-imposed pre-e at 25 weeks, PTL & GD at 35 weeks, Evicted 36w
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