I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. What a beautiful family.
HELLP can be really tricky, and get really ugly very fast. My own case was "atypical"- I was only 23 weeks, my blood pressure was normal, I didn't spill protein. But our daughter was severely growth restricted and I kept having horrible upper right quadrant pain-- for a few weeks even. I went to my doctor for the pain and it was dismissed as normal pregnancy stuff. (And with my blood pressure being normal and my urine clear, I think that most doctors would have thought that.) A week later the pain was so bad we went to the hospital, when I first arrived they did bloodwork, and everything was almost normal, my liver enzymes were just slightly elevated. Luckily, they kept me, trying to figure out what was wrong, and 6 hours later they redid my bloodwork, in that time my liver enzymes more than doubled and my platelets dropped by more than 100,000..in 6 hours. We were forced to deliver our baby at only 23 weeks and she didn't survive, while I continued to get worse for the next day and a half until things slowly started improving. I narrowly missed getting a blood transfusion for low platelets. But even as my labs got worse, my blood pressure stayed okay and I didn't really even feel worse. They consider my case atypical. But HELLP is rare enough that I think a lot of cases end up being atypical.
Me (29) DH (30)
#1-Olivia Caetlyn-9-28-09-9-28-09, 23+2 wks, emergency classic c-section, class I HELLP, IUGR
#2- Lucas Oliver (rainbow baby)- April 2011, 36+2 wks, HELLP and pre-e free! (lovenox and LDA pregnancy)
#3-Matthew, late October 2012...mostly normal, 37 wks, (lovenox and LDA again)
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