Dr discourages trying for #2

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Re: Dr discourages trying for #2

Postby sam10 » Sat Mar 23, 2013 07:51 pm

I agree, please seek a second opinion and if possible with an MFM (high-risk oB). They are usually less scared of us PE ladies :D
Preeclampsia puts us all at high risk of developing high blood-pressure and other cardiovascular diseases, also later in life. So it will be important to keep your BP under control. Keep in mind that BP thresholds are different for pregnant women than it is for those of us who are not pregnant. If you are seeing the same high numbers that made your docs running while you were pregnant, it might not put them into such a state of alarm outside of pregnancy. They are on the high side and need to be looked at by a specialist. You might want to find a good general practitioner and also check with a cardiologist who is familiar with the risks/after effects of PE. I set up a whole team of docs before I got pregnant again with my second baby and I was very picky ;) The MFM might have recommendations of doctors also.
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H (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
M (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE

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Re: Dr discourages trying for #2

Postby midwestmom » Sat Mar 23, 2013 05:35 pm

Hi, I'm so sorry you got such discouraging news. My first thought in reading your post is - where is the opinion from the MFM? Can you find a maternal fetal medicine doctor in your area to get an opinion from? PCP's don't see high risk patients like us often and your standard obygyn may not either. MFM's deal with "our kind" (;-)) everyday - high risk patients with issues like chronic hypertension, fertility issues, >35 years old, etc, so if I were you, I would seek out the opinion of an MFM before making any final decisions.
Congratulations, by the way, on losing 35 lbs!!! what an accomplishment!!! I'm trying to losing weight myself....not an easy thing to do!
I know it's not easy, but try to stay positive as you sift through ALL of the opinions, and please keep us posted :-) Lauren
Son born by emergency C-section due to severe preeclampsia in August 2009. Born 29wks2days weighing 3lbs, he is a healthy toddler now.

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Dr discourages trying for #2

Postby hollyree » Sat Mar 23, 2013 10:26 am

Hi everyone,
I'm new to the board but not this website. I had preeclampsia in 2001 when I was pregnant with my son. Looking back at my medical records it looks like it started around 28 weeks in terms of elevated bp and proteinuria. I think I started swelling around 20-24 weeks. My son was delivered at 37 weeks due to my bp at 170/100 plus headache. Everything went well. I had a c-section due to failure to progress when induced. Five years later, I found out I was pregnant again but miscarried at 9 weeks. Fast forward to now and my husband and I are really wanting to try for #2. I have PCOS and am not ovulating therefore will have to go on Clomid if I want to get pregnant. My bps have been through the ROOF! I had no idea they were that high. When I went for my first visit with my ob/gyn for my yearly check-up and to discuss getting pregnant, it was 170/100! The last time it was that high I was put into the hospital to deliver my son! My bp's have been running around 160/100-108 when checked with a machine but when its checked manually it's 150/94-100. Still high but not AS bad. My PCP put me on Bystolic for my bp--just started that yesterday. My ob/gyn was VERY discouraging about getting pregnant again with my bp as high as it was and my history of preeclampsia. Add in the fact that I'm 36. He told me I would be very sick and could possibly stroke out if I got pregnant again. He told my husband that if I was his wife he wouldn't let me get pregnant. I greatly appreciate his honesty but am not ready to give up the hope of having another baby. I just wanted to know if someone else had a similar situation and how did your second pregnancy go? I know its different for everyone but I need to hear something positive. I was devastated after seeing my ob/gyn Thursday! Also, has anyone taken Bystolic while pregnant? I've lost 35 lbs in the past few months (which was partly why I was so shocked by my bp) and am trying to lose more before I even contemplate starting the Clomid. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!
Me 35 DH 37
DS - born 9/7/01 at 37 weeks due to severe PE
12/2006 - miscarried at 9 weeks
HTN - Bystolic 10mg
PCOS - Infertility
REALLY wanting to try for #2!

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