Hi, I'm so sorry you got such discouraging news. My first thought in reading your post is - where is the opinion from the MFM? Can you find a maternal fetal medicine doctor in your area to get an opinion from? PCP's don't see high risk patients like us often and your standard obygyn may not either. MFM's deal with "our kind" (;-)) everyday - high risk patients with issues like chronic hypertension, fertility issues, >35 years old, etc, so if I were you, I would seek out the opinion of an MFM before making any final decisions.
Congratulations, by the way, on losing 35 lbs!!! what an accomplishment!!! I'm trying to losing weight myself....not an easy thing to do!
I know it's not easy, but try to stay positive as you sift through ALL of the opinions, and please keep us posted