Our boys are 18 months apart. Obviously I love them both dearly but oh my, the last several months have been really miserable. DS2 is a very high maintenance baby and is just now starting to get a little better. In hindsight, now that I see how much better Lucas is with him and in general now at almost 2 vs, at 18 months, I would have waited.
I took vitex (can get it from Amazon, the drops taste icky but work better than the pills) to get my periods back when I was 8ish months pp. It worked, which is a huge deal b/c I don't typically have normal cycles anyway. Then I took soy isoflavones for 5 days (works similar to clomid but is herbal) to help me ovulate. The first month was funky, the second month I upped my dose of soy iso and had an obvious ovulation and boom, pregnant. (Took 6 months of fertility treatments with an RE for Luke, so I was shocked that the herbal stuff really worked to get my cycles back on track, and shocked it worked so quickly.) I continued nursing till I was about 13 wks pregnant and by then DS1 was almost 13 months and I was more then ready to be done knowing I'd be doing it all over again in a few months, but I did manage to get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy while nursing part of it and ttc. And I don't normally ovulate on my own even when I'm not breastfeeding. I asked them to check my progesterone levels after I thought I had ovulated (7 days after), it indicated I ovulated but was lowish, like 8 or 9, so when I got a positive test I did go on progesterone till 11ish wks which may have helped prevent a m/c, so make sure they keep an eye on your progesterone levels after ovulation b/c those do tend to be an issue when breastfeeding.
Me (29) DH (30)
#1-Olivia Caetlyn-9-28-09-9-28-09, 23+2 wks, emergency classic c-section, class I HELLP, IUGR
#2- Lucas Oliver (rainbow baby)- April 2011, 36+2 wks, HELLP and pre-e free! (lovenox and LDA pregnancy)
#3-Matthew, late October 2012...mostly normal, 37 wks, (lovenox and LDA again)
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