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International Bereaved Mothers Day... I don't think I like

Postby princess purr » Sun May 05, 2013 04:35 pm

by princess purr (1092 Posts), Sun May 05, 2013 04:35 pm

One of my friends posted that it was "International Bereaved Mothers Day." I have a hard enough time with one mother's day, let alone two. I don't know who came up with the idea, and I'm sorry if I'm offending anyone that likes the idea, but I prefer to be remembered as a mom on Mother's day. Am I over reacting, or is one Mother's day enough??
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Re: International Bereaved Mothers Day... I don't think I li

Postby sam10 » Mon May 06, 2013 08:06 pm

by sam10 (1441 Posts), Mon May 06, 2013 08:06 pm

As with anything related to loss and grief, we all react differently and feel ok or not ok with days like mother's day, father's day, the bereaved mother's day, and other holidays. For me I really liked it the first year after we lost Henry. It felt special to me. Then I forgot about it for two years, and now I like it again. Go figure.
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Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


Our pain has been put into words, placed into empty cradles, to remember that all our babies lived, that they mattered and always will. - Field of Cradles http://www.fieldofcradles.org/
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Re: International Bereaved Mothers Day... I don't think I li

Postby kerisue » Tue May 07, 2013 03:02 pm

by kerisue (623 Posts), Tue May 07, 2013 03:02 pm

*This is only my opinion, but I don't feel Mother's Day applies to me and I'd rather ignore it. (I have other days to acknowledge my baby and my role as her mother in her brief life).
I also don't really feel like I personally *need* an Intl. Bereaved Mother's Day, but I can see how that would be helpful or meaningful to some people- shining a light on a loss that isn't always acknowledged.
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