I am a 36 y/o mom of two - my daughter just turned four and my son just turned two. Before my son's birth in 2011, we always imagined we'd have three children. However, after two PE pregnancies (with the 2nd - my son - being much more severe) I started to think that we should not have any more children. First of all, I don't want to die. I also don't want to put my child at risk for severe illness or death.
So here we are. My daughter has been telling us she wants another 'baby' and she doesn't care if it's a boy baby or a girl baby but she WANTS one. LOL! Her talk has come at a time when my body is SCREAMING at me to have another child. It is difficult to ignore at times. I am always daydreaming about being pregnant and having another baby and even love looking at all the baby stuff when we're at shops.
Then comes reality...preeclampsia. My fist pregnancy was uncomfortable (severe hyperemesis g.) but manageable. I developed PE at 35 weeks with my daughter born via c-section at the end of 36. She went home the same day as me. Pregnancy two, not as bad with the nausea/vomiting, but my PE was much more severe. I was on hospital bed rest at 32 weeks due to BP and proteinuria. One day that week my BP and protein spiked and my son was born via c-section mid-32 weeks. Thankfully, he was totally healthy with no issues. He spent just over 4 weeks in NICU learning to eat and growing. I had continued BP issues following delivery and was put on Labetalol about 5 days post delivery. The day after delivery I lost my vision (serous retinal detachments in booth eyes). While the vision loss wasn't life threatening on its own, it was scary. I definitely don't want to go through that again. More than that, I don't want to experience a worse case of PE than in my last pregnancy. I've been reading up on calcium supplementation, baby aspirin, etc. and it has given me 'some' hope for a third child.
I am otherwise pretty healthy. I have hypothyroidism with some anemia (though I've been working on keeping my levels up). If we do have another child, I would be monitoring BP at home and am keenly aware of things to look out for and when I did to be seen or head straight to hospital. I also plan to purchase urine test strips for use at home (unless our insurance plan would like to cover them, of course!)
I'd love to hear from some of you who have had similar experiences after PE pregnancies, and how your pregnancy went. I am approaching this cautiously, but biology (desire to have another child) is very strong. Am I insane? Stupid? (be kind...)