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Officially TTC

Postby ashleyhae » Sun Sep 22, 2013 06:56 pm

by ashleyhae (17 Posts), Sun Sep 22, 2013 06:56 pm

My Ken and I lost our baby girl Malia just over 6 months ago. As hard as it is to attempt pregnancy again, we are. I'm a basket of mixed emotions, but am in some way comforted by the thought that this is what I'm meant to do. We have passed ovulation now and the wait for AF or a BFP begins. I know that pregnancy will be terrifying but I hope for it to come sooner than later. Anything to bring the end nearer, if that makes sense. I've spent the last 4 months getting as healthy as possible (healthier than I've ever been) although I know that probably won't affect my chances of getting pre-e again. I just felt that I had to do anything in my control to help. Now my goal is to not obsess over getting pregnant as I know that will more likely than not negatively affect my chances. I never thought my life would be like this, never knew how difficult and heartbreaking having a family would be. Not a day or hour passes that I don't think about Malia and I miss her so much. I know it will be difficult for others to understand why we are trying again. And NO we are not trying to replace her, that isn't possible. The hurt of losing a child won't ease with another child I know that. Anyway....I'm rambling, I'm just very nervous and excited and scared.
Ashley
Mommy to Malia born March 15, 2013 at 29 weeks due to severe preeclampsia.
She spent 2 precious days with us that we will forever cherish.
Baby #2 due 6/16/14
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Re: Officially TTC

Postby sam10 » Sun Sep 22, 2013 07:44 pm

by sam10 (1437 Posts), Sun Sep 22, 2013 07:44 pm

Fingers crossed :D

It takes a lot of courage to try again. There is the fear of getting PE again, there is the sadness of having lost the firstborn, there are the other people with their opinions...ouh, yes, lots to deal with. Good luck and I hope to read about a BFP soon.
~Julija (40)
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


Our pain has been put into words, placed into empty cradles, to remember that all our babies lived, that they mattered and always will. - Field of Cradles http://www.fieldofcradles.org/
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Re: Officially TTC

Postby ashleyhae » Sat Oct 05, 2013 05:00 pm

by ashleyhae (17 Posts), Sat Oct 05, 2013 05:00 pm

BFP!!!!! I'm in shock!
Ashley
Mommy to Malia born March 15, 2013 at 29 weeks due to severe preeclampsia.
She spent 2 precious days with us that we will forever cherish.
Baby #2 due 6/16/14
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Re: Officially TTC

Postby midwestmom » Sat Oct 05, 2013 08:05 pm

by midwestmom (74 Posts), Sat Oct 05, 2013 08:05 pm

Great great great news!!!
Lauren
Son born by emergency C-section due to severe preeclampsia in August 2009. Born 29wks2days weighing 3lbs, he is a healthy toddler now.
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Re: Officially TTC

Postby sam10 » Sun Oct 06, 2013 09:00 am

by sam10 (1437 Posts), Sun Oct 06, 2013 09:00 am

Congratulations! :D
Fingers crossed for an uneventful pregnancy. Let us know how it goes.
~Julija (40)
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


Our pain has been put into words, placed into empty cradles, to remember that all our babies lived, that they mattered and always will. - Field of Cradles http://www.fieldofcradles.org/
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Re: Officially TTC

Postby MomTimesThree » Sun Oct 06, 2013 07:11 pm

by MomTimesThree (563 Posts), Sun Oct 06, 2013 07:11 pm

Congrats! Wishing you a long an uneventful pregnancy, your precious Malia watching over her lil' sib!

Lauren
2008-Our Baby Girl, PTL born too early at 30w6d, Fought so hard... Forever Loved & Missed
2010- Lil' Bro, Pre-E at 29 weeks... Induced at 36w6d, Born 37w
2012- Lil' Sis, Super-imposed pre-e at 25 weeks, PTL & GD at 35 weeks, Evicted 36w
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Re: Officially TTC

Postby Rubbie78 » Tue Oct 08, 2013 03:10 pm

by Rubbie78 (20 Posts), Tue Oct 08, 2013 03:10 pm

congrats on BFP!!!
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Re: Officially TTC

Postby ashleyhae » Thu Oct 17, 2013 06:50 pm

by ashleyhae (17 Posts), Thu Oct 17, 2013 06:50 pm

Thank you all! I can't believe it happened our first cycle of trying but thankful with everything else I'll have to worry about. I have my first appointment/ultrasound Monday and I'm incredibly nervous. I know stressing isn't going tochange anything. But so excited too! What a roller coaster!!
Ashley
Mommy to Malia born March 15, 2013 at 29 weeks due to severe preeclampsia.
She spent 2 precious days with us that we will forever cherish.
Baby #2 due 6/16/14
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