Returning here after a long hiatus and looking for some support/advice. I'm the mom of a healthy 5-year-old girl, induced at 36 weeks due to PE. We're pregnant again and I'm at 21 weeks. Excited to be this far along but also waiting for the other shoe to drop. I was living in a large city when I had my daughter and was seeing a high-risk specialist who took a very cautious approach and monitored me very closely (BP soared early on and BMI at 32). This time, we're living in a very small town, two hour drive to specialists and even a NICU. I am now of advanced material age (36) and BMI is higher this time at 36 (sigh).
So in many ways, it's a different ballgame. My doctor seems unconcerned about everything. My BP has been about 145/95 consistently, even on 750 mg of methyldopa daily (I was hypertensive before getting pregnant so not sure if this is due to baby or not). In the first trimester, I did a 24-hour protein, and it was 300 (already!). The lab sheet said normal is below 200. I called in tears and in a panic, and the doc basically said that it's not uncommon for pregnant women to have protein in their urine and that this is normal for me.
I'm so torn. A part of me feels like what's going to happen is going to happen. Can our doctors really do anything to slow down this disease process, or are they just really good at measuring everything and telling you it's coming or is here? Do you think I should be driving two hours to see a specialist? Or do you think I should just put things in the hands of the hometown doc?
As an aside, several of my friends are pregnant right now, some for the first time, others on two or three, but none with complicated pregnancies. I feel so out of place when I talk to them. I don't want to scare anyone, and while I am super excited to be expecting, I'm also so worried about all of the things that can go wrong. I keep thinking that if I can at least make it nine more weeks, this kiddo will be able to make it (even if we have to make the haul to a NICU).
Oh, well. I know many have much worse burdens to carry.
I'd like to hear from anyone who has similar numbers to me at this point and how things turned out. Also, I should note all the genetic tests have been coming back great. I have my big anatomy scan on Dec. 5 and should have a sense then of how baby is growing and the sex.