I too drove myself crazy wanting a second. My first now 8 years old with severe eclamsia seizures, bp240/159 and nearly dying. I had a hard time convincing my hub also. When my father dyed near his 49th birthday and I had no siblings to lean on, I realized this would be the same for my daughter, should anything happen to us. I began to think of her needs and consulted a specialist. He told me my chances of mortality with another pregnancy were less than getting killed in a car crash. That under close care the second pregnancy chances would be less than 5% of getiing it again.
so we did it, my hub had a Vasectomy, ( thats right it scared him sooo bad)so we spent over 10,000 of our savings to have it reversed and I am now in week 33 with NO symptoms.. Cross your fingers, I am taking the asprin, vitamin c and e and tenormin, and so far so good. Follow your heart, weigh the pros and cons for you child you have now and see a specialist before to get an individual opinion. Best wishes!!