by aimeejane (589 Posts), Sat Jan 17, 2004 07:55 pm
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I'm in tears, because you all understand.
If one more person tells me that Nicky's too young for us to know, I think I'm going to bite their stupid heads off! Yes, he's a typical 3yo, but MORESO - and he's almost four now. I think only someone going through it could understand. Not only does he have trouble focusing on so much, he hyperfocuses on some things - like books and movies - the things he's really interested in. That's what really made me believe it's ADHD.
He's the smartest child I've ever seen - so much so that it scares me sometimes. His memory and powers of deduction, when he takes the time to listen to his mind, are incredible. I'm just so afraid that if we don't do something about it now, he's going to be labeled a 'problem child' in Kindergarten, which will absolutely kill any chance he has in public school.
Of course I'm wary...I don't want to medicate just for the 'quick fix,' and, of course, I'm keeping in mind how much Ritalin was over-used when we were kids. On the other hand, I'm 100% for medicating when it's the right path for that child. Nicky has responded very well to list-making. I print up a colorful "To Do" list during his nap, and he crosses off each thing with his favorite brown crayon. This makes transitions so much easier, and our lives have become much more pleasant, even as I've started using the list less. Of course, they can't do this in preschool, with 2 teachers for 14 kids, and that's my concern. We can't count on the world adapting to his way of learning, so he's going to have to adapt.
Here's a fabulous site I found on it. The part about potty training hit home with us...Nicky's been physically ready for at least 8 months, but throws tantrums when led anywhere near a potty. [:(] http://www.klis.com/chandler/pamphlet/adhd/What%20is%20ADHD.htm
I've booked a double-length appointment for his 4-year check-up on March 30. For the second half, my mom will take the boys home while I have a consult with the doctor. My goal is to walk out of there with a referral to a specialist, so wish me luck!!!
Aimee - 28
Dh - 30
Ds Nicky - 3/24/00 (28 wks - eclampsia)
Ds Kalen - 7/10/03 (36 weeks - preeclampsia)