by laura (5139 Posts), Sun Nov 23, 2003 05:01 pm
I just have to echo what Anne's saying- I feel like I'm in a unique position, because I'm familiar with both ways of looking at this.
When I first started posting on here- I was fresh and indignant about how poorly my own first preeclamptic pregnancy was handled, and after my own fact finding journey yielded so much information contrary to what I had been told about this horrible disease that we all share in one way or another.
Haha- my big mouth was one of the reasons we have a separate "Ask the Experienced" board in addition to the "Ask the Experts" because I couldn't restrain myself from throwing my two cents in, expert or no! [:I]
I have, however, been humbled by the stories I've read and posts from women I've come to love, and babies (alive and not) I've come to cherish over the past year. For many of us, this isn't just a place where we shoot the breeze- lives are changed here.
I had to change the way I think about this disease and what I know to be true, and how I post because of this awareness. I know that one of my dearest friends was rendered temporarily BLIND and went into kidney failure from PE. Two of my dearest friends came far too close to not being here for my taste. Another member (one of many) lost her baby from abruption within days of my second being born safely.
After this member had the strength to post about her experience, another member had the info she needed to recognize when SHE was having an abruption, and was able to save herself and her baby.
My awareness is so great and terrible that I often feel compelled to verify the opinions I offer in a medical textbook I've bought expressly for this purpose- because I know so acutely that mere words can change lives, especially when spoken here. (me, a chubby houswife in the frozen north!) And I know now that there is no truth and no right for us, not yet. Just a series of carefully calculated, carefully balanced choices. And I can't make judgements about the choices another person is forced to make. I haven't been rendered blind, had countless miscarriges, suffered stillbirth, seizures, and dialysis. Who knows what I would choose if I were in that position? I can only offer my support and love and hope it all works out ok.
I still am humbled, daily. Please take care, and thank you so much for caring enough to offer your help to others.
Allie 5-13-98 (35 weeks-pre-e)
Baby Camille 4-17-03 (36 weeks- htn and oligo)