Hi and welcome! Preeclampsia is just a devestating disease, during the pregnancy and in it's aftermath... I am so happy that your daughter is doing well but, sorry to hear that your wife is still sufferring from it's effects... I too continued to suffer from some issues postpartum - kidney and vision - and, you will unfortunately find that it is not uncommon.
I can't imagine what it is like for a husband to watch his wife become so sick and for his child's life to be in danger as well. I don't know how I would handle it if the situations were reversed...
I wish you and your wife the best in making your decision to try again, goodness knows it's not an easy one... My husband and I just found out we're expecting again and, although we were trying and hoping, when I told my husband he couldn't do anything but cry. He is terrified, excited, yet terrified. I don't think he will breathe easy until we are holding our baby in our arms at home.
Here is a link to a post from our "Ask the Experts" section on recurrence rates, I thought this info may help a little. http://www.preeclampsia.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=331&SearchTerms=sibai
Best of luck to you and please keep us posted.
Zachary James, 7/22/03-7/27/03, born at 26wks - severe pe
Miracle in progress... #2 is due February 9, 2005!!!!
Southern California Coordinator