Help.

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angelkat
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Re : Help.

Postby angelkat » Sat Dec 06, 2003 06:58 pm

It's hard to think that it will get better, but it does. Each person is different, and each person goes thru grief their own way. Men (most) almost act as if it didn't happen, as if they are over the hurt (Don't believe them they are just trying to help us by hiding their thoughts and concerns.) I always feel talking about my daughter really helps me. I always feel that she is right there on my shoulder guiding me thru the days and nights. If you ever need to chat or need someone to talk with please feel free to e-mail me... at trakapp@charter.net

Hugs
~T

Mommy to
Drew(13)
Ky (11)
and our Angel Katlyne(12/9/02-04/02/03) forever in our hearts and thoughts
Katlyne's Memorial Site
http://www.forevernetwork.com/Archive/lifestory.cfm?Archive_ID=10971&Directory=%2FArchives%2FMountHope&CFID=1089289&CFTOKEN=79068509

kimb
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Re : Help.

Postby kimb » Sat Dec 06, 2003 00:14 am

Rebecca I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son in July and as dark as it feels right now it does get better. I think of my little boy every day - sometimes I can talk to him and be ok - others my heart just breaks over and over again and the tears don't stop coming - as they are falling now seeing how you are hurting. All the feelings you are having right now are normal and you will make it through. Anytime you need a little extra support - log on - we are here for you.

mada
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Re : Help.

Postby mada » Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:37 am

G-d I am so sorry. Your anguish must be unbearable. I will pray for comfort and peace for you and your family. Mada

Mada Harpster

Sam 6-29-00 36weeks P.E.
Ben 11-03-01 No P.E.

cj7suthrnbelle
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Re : Help.

Postby cj7suthrnbelle » Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:19 am

I buried my Ashton. I so badly wanted to crawl in with her and sleep with her in my arms for eternity. I would just like to cease to exist.

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Re : Help.

Postby maddiekinsmom » Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:59 am

I wish there was something that could be said or done to take away the pain. My heart aches for you. Know that this group is always here to listen and support you through this most difficult time.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Rachel

Rachel
Madeleine 4/8/01 (29 weeker: 1 lb,14oz; severe PE, IUGR)

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Re : Help.

Postby twolfgram » Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:27 am

I would just like to echo the thoughts of others here. I am sooo sorry for your loss. I hope you'll be able to feel some peace soon. I'm sure Ashton knows you're her mom. She's watching over you in heaven, now. You have your own little guardian angel. Take comfort in that and your other two children. Again, I'm so sorry.

Therese Mom to
Jonathan - 28 weeks born 10/4/95
Angel in Heaven - Erik 12/20/02

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Re : Help.

Postby mada » Fri Dec 05, 2003 07:22 am

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Ashton. I cannot even begin to imagine how you feel. Reading your words, I could feel your dispear and I shed tears for you. I haven't been through what you have been through, but preeclampsia is a terrible, terrible, disease, I want you to know that you are not a freak of nature....So many women blame themselves, but it's not your fault....Do take the time to feel whatever you need to feel...we are here for you and I hope you have comfort today. I know it will probably be the most difficult thing in your life. Prayers to you and your family....warm hugs...

Mada

Mada Harpster

Sam 6-29-00 36weeks P.E.
Ben 11-03-01 No P.E.

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Re : Help.

Postby sweetiesuzy » Fri Dec 05, 2003 06:18 am

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. What you are feeling is normal. Don't let yourself think you can't grieve the way you need to - whatever thazt may be. I encourage you to take lots of picture when you see her today. It may seem really hard to do that, but you will treasure them later. Take as long as you need. Don't let anyone rush you or tell you to get over it. You never will. She loves you and is forever a part of you. Your life has changed and no one can understand what you feel. You are a good mom and she is smiling down on you right now.

Hugs and love,
Suzanna

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Re : Help.

Postby cj7suthrnbelle » Fri Dec 05, 2003 06:01 am

The day has come. In a couple of hours I will hold my Ashton for the last time. How am I supposed to tell her goodbye when she never even heard me say hello? In the hospital after everyone left, I had her in bed with me, and I refused to let myself fall asleep for fear that she might actually wake up and I not know it. Pretty silly, huh? I remember her being so cold the longer I held her. I'm bringing an extra blanket for her casket so she doesn't get cold.
I wonder if she knows me? I mean, I talked to her for nearly nine months, but she never really had the chance to get know me like I knew her.
How am I going to be able to go into that room today knowing that my baby is going into the ground instead of home? I feel like some sort of freak of nature right now. She was perfectly healthy...it was me who was having all the problems. So why not let it be me instead?
I've cried so much my eyes are practically swollen shut, and I feel like I'm going to just lose it. Never in my life have I felt such despair,complete rage, and emptiness all at the same time. Never did I think God could be so cruel. Wish me luck, I have to go get ready...though I don't think that's possible.

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Re : Help.

Postby michal » Fri Dec 05, 2003 02:15 am

I would like to tell you how sad I am that another woman has lost her baby due to the ravages of preeclampsia .
I also lost my baby daughter ,Dina a month ago . She was born ar 25w4d and only lived for 5 days .
Initially I was numb with shock and did not quite internalize what happened until a week later when I came home and then the sadness started , being at home without my newborn baby .
I spent alot of time sleeping in the first couple of weeks , and in between that crying . It feels like you are in this deep abyss and you just cannot get out .
I knew that I had to carry on for my five year old daughter's sake .
We speak a lot about our baby Dina who we lost . She is the most comfortable out of all my family and friends to talk about Dina !
Each time we have a little chat , ,I shed some tears and she comforts me as best as a 5 year old knows to comfort !
I am sending lots of hugs your way .
Michal
( Mom to Tali aged 5 , 5/3/1998 32 weeks , PE and HELLP , mom to my first angel 20/2/2002 , 20 weeks , PE and HELLP , mom to my seccond angel Dina Chaya Hodaya , 29/10/2003 - 4 /11/2003 , PE and HELLP )


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