Just wanted to reiterate what Catherine said, new babies really do not need a whole lot of stuff in the beginning. You'll need a bassinet for the baby to sleep in, some blankets, some onesies, burp cloths, a pacifier, diapers, bottles, and a car seat. And, that is about it! If you are planning on breast-feeding, you may want to get a breast pump in case you have problems with milk supply and need to pump early on. You can even rent one from the hospital on your way out the door. Your husband could get the rest of the stuff on a quick trip to BabiesRUs. My son was born two months early and we did not have a shower before his arrival. We had painted his room and had bought the dresser/crib. But that was about it. My family/friends hosted a "Welcome Tea" two weeks after his arrival. Johnny was still in the NICU but people loved getting to look at pictures of him, to hear how he was doing etc. It was fun, although I did feel a bit like a train wreck from continuing high BP. Best of luck with your decision-making. Just follow your heart and don't worry about pleasing other people etc. How are you feeling these days??
DH Christian -38
John Sebastian-14 months, (born at 32.5 weeks d/t Severe PRe-E)