by deerhart (3282 Posts), Wed Jun 30, 2004 07:45 am
Its amazing what the actual structure of a school will do for some of that wiggleness and lack of attention.
Its a different environment then sitting down with Mom at home. The kids know they are expected to sit and pay attention and they know the teacher will not tolerate them leaving like mom will.
We worried about this a lot when Alex started preschool and within a few weeks it wasn't much of a problem. SOmetimes the teachers have problems keeping him with the group, but that is still expected of 3-5 year olds.
I wouldn't worry about it too much until it actually does become a problem in an actual school setting, and then rule out things like her getting done earlier, getting bored etc out first as reasons for the behaviors.
The best advice the docs through everything have given us about our son is that there could be a million and a half reason why a child behaves in a certain way, but for the vast majority of the "reasons" the treatment is the same. We thus start to worry less about the why's and start changing the behaviors. Between the ages of 3-7 it is extremely difficult to pin point what the exact problem is in many kids simply because some of the same behaviors that are associated with things like ADD are also perfectly normal behaviors for that age range, so for some its not until they get older and the behaviors still exist that you can look back and say yes those were caused by ADD and not age.
The pysch told us that Alex was exhibiting behaviors that coincide with mild to moderate ADD, but that at age 4 they are unable to determine if those behaviors are being cuased by ADD, by his age, by his speech delay, by something else, or some combination of some or all of them. In fact, I would have been characterized based on behavior as mild to moderate ADD until I was probably 8-10 years old. While the reasons why I exhibited those behaviors and another child does was probably drastically different (mine had to do with the school system and always trying to push for more control with my parents) the behavior modification would still be the same.
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