I just thought I'd give you my opinion on the matter, though I haven't actually been where you have so it only somewhat applies.
I had PIH that caused Oligo (low amniotic fluid with high risk of IUGR among worse things) at about 29 weeks with my daughter and it scared the bejeezees out of me. They thought I would have a 29/30 wk baby...then a 31 weeker, 32 weeker, etc. Luckily, everything turned out fine for both of us (bedrest worked) and my daughter was safely delivered at 37 weeks on the dot.
My husband and I come from a very family oriented group...both our families, religion, etc. We had originally discussed having 3-5 children and when the hyperemesis, oligo, and PIH hit, we realized that may be a bit too many pregnancies for us to go through. We decided while pregnant with our first that we would atleast try once more. We want to make our original goal of 3-5 but not knowing what the "norm" for my pregnancies will be, we have decided to wait untill after the 2nd to make any more concrete plans.
So here I am now 16 weeks pregnant with our second. I have not had hyperemesis though my morning sickness has still been plenty unpleasant. I am still taking unisom to keep food down and be able to eat somewhat normally (emphasis on somewhat [;)]). My blood pressure has been slowly increasing but no where near hypertensive (from 100's/60's to upper 120's/80's). So, things look good. I expect a good outcome even if things take a turn for the worse. I realize that there is potential for a long NICU stay and complications, but at this point, I am glad that we have made the decision to give our daughter a sibling. Though, I honestly could not tell you if we will try for a third yet! LOL
Catherine (22), Moderator (pregnant again)
DH Britton (27)
Emma Margaret (03/02/03) 37 weeks from PIH & oligo
Baby #2 due August 11, 2004