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Post On Saturday, December 15, 2012 By Sonia
I just wanted to share my story and see if anyone has experienced the same. I had a baby boy back in 1999, he is now 13 yrs old. In January 2011 I found out I was expecting a baby. Everything was fine until my growth scan was done in April and I was told my little girl was too small, but the Dr. assured me that it may be due to the fact that I was small and maybe that's why this baby is small. Then in early July (about 28 week gestation) I was rushed into the ER with severe abdomen pain, where I was told my little girl no longer had a heartbeat. The Dr at the ER told me the baby may have been dead for at least a couple of weeks. I was then sent to a specialist and got a few tests done where they concluded I had no predisposition for stillbirth and that if I was to get pregnant again, it would more than likely be a successful pregnancy.
In May 2012 I finally conceived again and my due date would be January 13th 2013. I was so happy and I was well taken care of by my new OB/GYN who I trusted and two specialists who where doing growth scans and checking on me often. Everything was perfect. I went to my regular appointment at 32 weeks where I was told I had a perfect little boy and I also had a non stress test, I passed everything. This was on a Thursday, I then had a lot of cramping Monday night and Tuesday night, but during the day I was fine. The Dr. had told me that it was ok to have at least 15 contractions per day, so I disregarded those contractions as ok with a normal pregnancy. But I did notice the baby was moving less during the early morning hours, but then he would wake up around 10 am and be very active, I just thought it was ok since he was now sleeping more. I truly regret not running to the ER, my baby lasted like this for 3 days, but i didn't know something was wrong. I really thought he was ok, because he was very active during his normal kick count.
That Wednesday I felt my baby move around 5 pm and that was the last time I felt him move. I went to the ER at 7 pm because I started having lots of abdominal pain. As soon as I got to the ER, they prepared me for an emergency C-section, but soon after that they informed me my baby had no heart beat. I was devastated. The Dr. said I had had a full placenta abruption due to preeclampsia. My blood pressure was 223/120, and I had lost a lot of blood. I delivered a beautiful baby boy early Thanksgiving morning, and I was so proud to see how handsome my son was. I did not get to take my little man home and I wished there was something I could do to prevent this from happening to anyone. I don't know if my little girl died of the same thing, but I do know that there were lots of infarcts in the placenta. Although I did not have high blood pressure. I just don't know why these two random things would happen to me. I would like to tie them together so that I would know what is wrong with me and what I can do to prevent this again. Of course, I would love to have a baby in my arms, but the thought of going through this again makes me want to die. I feel so defeated and alone, I hate it that people tell me to find something fun to do or distract me, or that I will be ok or that I will have other kids or that I already have one kid, or anything, I'm just so hurt and heart broken.
My Dr. told me that it was a best option to not get pregnant again, just because once you start having recurring stillbirths, the chances of taking a live baby home are very slim. This makes me more depressed, because I feel that my Dr's never informed me of preeclampsia and they do not want to deal with this now. I just want to make one point very clear, preeclampsia does not only happen to people who have blood pressure problems, I had never had any issues with blood pressure, and this disease almost took my life and most importantly it took the life of my beautiful little red boy.
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