Let me start off by saying that I sit here watching my three month old
Let me start off by saying that I sit here watching my three month old son quietly sleep. He is healthy, happy and the joy of our lives. My husband and I want to have many more children...right away! However, the reality is that each time I get pregnant I put my life and the life of my unborn child in danger. Baby David was our fifth pregnancy. Before him we had 3 miscarriages and a neonatal death. I guess I should take you back to the birth/death story of our daughter Lynnlee.
Two years ago we found out I was pregnant with Lynnlee. At about 10 weeks I was bloated and we had to go to the emergancy room to have my wedding ring removed. I wasn't gaining weight, but my hands and face had begun to swell. No one really said anything about it, so we were not worried. By week 18 we were sent to a peri. for further test because our baby was experiencing severe IUGR. No one said anything. By week 20 I was on bedrest for elevated blood pressure and protein in my urine. Again no one said anything. After 6 weeks of bedrest at home and 2 weeks in the hospital I gave birth to Lynnlee. She was beautiful but weighted only 1 lb., 2 oz. She passed away after three days in NICU. One of which I spent lying in my hospital room on a mag. drip to ward off siezures. Still no one really said anything. Now after researching, reading, and viewing my medical records I can finally be the one to say something.
I had Pre-E that turned into HELLP. My body wasn't "retaining water" like a normal preg. body does. When they had to cut off my rings I was already showing signs of Pre-E. My nose feeling like it was growing so large that it was going to jump off of my face was a sign of Pre-E. Protein in my urine was a nice way of saying that my kidneys were shutting down. Headache, blurry vision, and my baby not growing (IUGR) were not normal and are all signs of Pre-E. Did my doctors know what was going on? Yes. Did they explain to me what was happening? No. When I had the sharp pain under my right breast did I know what was happening? No. But they did, my liver had shut down. Did I understand that my life was at stake? No. but I do now.
I got preg. again. But this time I was taking low dose aspirin before I even got preg. We also tracked my blood pressure at home daily. When it was time for bedrest I stayed on my left side. We had new doctors, went for biophyical test monthly for the first 4 months and then bi-weekly for 2 months, and then every other day for 4 weeks. When I had gained 8 lbs. in one week, my bp was elevated and I was begining to have blurry vision I was sent to the hospital to deliver. I gave birth to a healthy 5 lb,6 oz baby boy. David is here today because we knew the signs, watched carefully, found doctors that would watch me carefully, and did everything we could to keep me healthy.
After surviving a very traumatic first pregnancy with a nightmare delivery (30 hours of magnesium-induced hell, ending in an emergency c-section) and even more debilitating recovery, one would think I was DONE having children. Let's be ...