Hello my name is Marchele I am 26 years old I am so glad I
|Hello my name is Marchele I am 26 years old I am so glad I found this website so I can talk about my stories and read about other women and there stories. Me and my fiance had gotten pregnant in April 2004 when we found out we were so happy. I made my appointments as usual and everything was fine. Then in September I got my ultrasound and my fiance was away at the time so my mom went with me and we found out that we were having a boy, I was so excited I really did not care what the sex was of the baby just as long as the baby was in good health. My fiance really wanted a boy so I mailed of the sonagram picture and the techincan had put in text writing that it was a boy so I knew he would be very happy. On October 9,2004 I was experiencing bloating and very full feeling, I felt like I was consipated and I was not to sure of it so I waited and than through out the day it gotten worst I was having cramping to the point it made hunch over and I grab my stomach My fiance called my Doctor and explained to him what was going on, so my doctor said go to the Hospital ASAP!!!. On our way down there the cramping was getting worst like I was having contractions. I go to the labor and delivery unit and they exam me they took my blood pressure an that was sky high, They found protein in my urine, thats when they told me I had Preeclampsia so they admitted me I was so scared because I was only 24 wks and I wanted everything to be alright. they gave me steroids,Magnesium sulfate,etc I was on allot of medication. My doctor came in and said if you can hold out to 26wks -28wks your baby will have big chance of survial so I agreed to do it and my blood work kept coming back abnormal and my blood count was going crazy I was a very sick they did an ultrasound and my baby boy (Dorian) was getting very stress so the doctor said to me and my family that we can not hold out to much longer we got to deliver this baby I panic!! because I knew that I was still early I was only 24 wks. My health was at risk, I didn't know how sick I was until my doctor told me, I was very sick the doctor said that if we do not deliver the baby you both can die I agreed thats when I put all this in God's hands. I had a C-section on October 13,2004 I remember like it was yesterday when they took him out my womb and brought him over to me and my fiance Dorian just looked at us with these big brown eyes and he had so much hair he was beautiful he only weight 1LB and 3/4. Dorian was in NICU I was still in the hospital and for like 3 days I could not see my little boy because I was so sick I blew up I am only 145 and 5`1 and It took all of me to get up out of bed my mom and dad,fiance and the nurses had to actually pull me out of bed to get on the scale it hurt so bad i could not feel my legs I cried like a baby, my weight was 230lbs because of all that access fluid from the Preeclampsia the nurses told me it would be a while for me to see my son and I made myself eat I tried to get out of bed on my own even though it hurt to do all that but i had to, I pushed myself to do things so I could go see my son. I will never forget that day when no one was around and I pulled myself of that hospital bed and tried to walk on my own, the room door was open and when I came around the corner the doctor was standing there and the nurses they were so proud of me I will never for get that day. I remember the nurse wheeling me down to the NICU when they took me to my son's Incubator I stared to cry because he was hook up to all these machines he had on a little diaper it was so cute he was laying on his stomach with his head turned to the side facing me and thats when he looked at me. When they released me I went home and I would call the NICU everyday and night to check on Dorian I would ride down there to see him the doctors were so amazed because as little as he was he would hold his head up and just look around the nurse's said that it was okay for me to touch him and change his diapers and wipe him down my fiance would video tape me talking to him but he was to small for us to hold him yet he was progressing everyday he gained 2lbs which made us so happy we had allot of people praying for him.Than on November 11 2004 we get a phone call at 3:00am to come down to the hospital I was so scared they would not tell me anything so we rushed down and as soon as I get there I look he was purple and blue, the doctors said he has some infection but they did not know what it was. I stayed by his incubator for the longest time praying to god to save him, he was my baby boy my fiance was so upset he couldn't look at Dorian the doctors would not even transport him, they said he was to critical I just kept looking at Dorian's blood pressure it just kept on dropping. I knew right than and there we had to make the biggest decsion of our lifes we decide to take him of the machines and let God take over so the nurse handed me my son and the time was 11:50pm my family was there my fiance family was there I sat down with dorian in the rockenchair and looked at him told him how much we loved him but god wanted you most he was trying to open his eyes but he couldn't because they were swollen shut I gave him to my fiance and he just broke down crying it was very hard my mom took dorian in her arms she said some words to him and he smiled at her with his eyes shut but we didn't have much time with him but everyone got to hold him and at 12:05Am November 12,2004 Dorian Isaiah had past away in peace around his family I miss him dearly i think about him everyday I still cry but all I have is memories of him he will never be forgotten. The doctors say the cause of death was "Meningitis". I don't have any children at this time but me and my fiance are talking about it but I can not go thruugh another death like this there is a 50% chance I will get Preeclampsia in my next pregnancy but they are not for sure. I hope they find a cure for Preeclampsia because allot of women are dying from this and there babies. thank you for letting ne share my story. In Loving memory of our son Dorian Isaiah Fisher.|
After surviving a very traumatic first pregnancy with a nightmare delivery (30 hours of magnesium-induced hell, ending in an emergency c-section) and even more debilitating recovery, one would think I was DONE having children. Let's be ...