I am so glad to have found this site. I am sad to know that
Posted On Tuesday, December 29, 2009 by Elizabeth
I am so glad to have found this site. I am sad to know that so many women are suffering in this day and age and losing their lifes or their babies. In 1995 I had my first son who is almost 14 and I had severe hyperemesis. I remarried and due to mismanaged medical care, we lost 3 babies before they were born to hyperemesis. In 2008 we thought we had found the perfect dr. He had helped us try to conceive for a year. He would call us at home to check on us and he seemed like a dream. Or so we thought. When we finally became pregnant after a year of trying on our anniversary we were so excited. My dr. didn't share in our excitement when he did the first ultrasound he said the baby was not measuring at 5 weeks where it should be and I would mostly likely miscarry within the week. We were devasted. The following week when I didn't miscarry he just laughed about it and said sorry to worry you for nothing, everything looks great.The pregnancy went really well and I didn't have any hyperemesis. I was in heaven. At 25 weeks, something went really really wrong. I started getting really sick and I thought for sure it was hyperemesis starting in. I called my dr's office which was supposed to be ready if I called in due to my history and that I was to go to the hospital, as with my previous pregnancies if I would start vomitting, my blood pressure would sky rocket. Well, after several phone calls to the triage nurse of me begging her to let me go to the hospital she finally agreed. By the time I got there my blood pressure was 180/100. I was hospitalized with IV's and anti-nauseating medication IV benydryl and zofran works always best for me. After a day I was feeling better, although, I started having weird pains in my stomach. The dr didn't think anything of it. I was sent home after a day and the next day I was vomitting again. The on-call dr. from my dr's team started yelling at my husband on the phone when he called in to see if I should go back to the hospital. Basically, blaming him for me being sick and asking him what was wrong with me. He tried telling the dr. he had no idea. The dr. said well you can bring her in but I have no idea what I will do with her. Well, if I hadn't been so sick I would have said you will hydrate me with IV's, and give me anti-nausteating medication. I mean for goodness sake who is the dr. here??? After I got to the hospital it was a nightmare. The nurse I had tried to force me to eat while I was throwing up and refused to give me my medication and tried to tell me how disapointed she was in me for not eating. I was weak and tired and crying. She started yelling at me "what do you want from me I am emptying your puke bucket". I got transfered to a different floor. My dr. came to see me and because I had a bruise in the middle of my back (I was anmeic) and I used one of those shitsu massagers for back pain they had decided my husband must be beating me. My dr. asked us if the reason we were sick was we were using alcohol. I was shocked and saddened that a dr. I had come to trust and depend on for over a year of trying to conceive could ask us this. I don't think he was convinced until after he did my blood work. I also had to beg then to get IV Home Therapy as they did not think I needed it. For some reason in my mind, I still think he thought this was all due to me using alcohol so knowing IV medication was the only thing that worked for me, my IV at the hospital was taken away and I was given only oral medication which started getting me sick. I was also told that I could have no IV Benydryl through my home care as some people like to sell it on the street as a street drug. I was told if I asked for it again for my Home Care I would not have Home Care any further and have no one that would treat me and I would have to be sick on my own. I was beyond devasted. I decided I would try to do whatever I could to get through this and not lose the baby. After several more hospitalizations, it was never once thought of that I may have preeclampsia, my dr. just decided to transfer my care without telling me to another clinic. I am lucky he did that probably is what saved mine and my baby's life. I started having severe blood pressure issues of blood pressure of 230/110. At 29 weeks, I started becoming very dizzy and I had a bad headache that lasted 3 days and pains in my sides and my blood pressure was up again to 230/110. It was decided that I would have to have an emergency c-section. My baby was born at 29 weeks at 2 1/2 lbs after spending 8 weeks in the hospital he was finally able to come home. He is so healthy and happy and 16 lbs and 8 months now. He was born April 18, 2009 originally due July 3, 2009. He is the little love of all our lifes. I am 39 and will be 40 in June. I was told I had Hellp Syndrome when in the hospital but have now come to find out I had severe preeclampsia as in my medical record. I have heard that a lot of women have been told they had Hellp only to find out it was severe pree. I was told by my dr's office it is basically the same thing??? I am still on blood pressure meds. I am doing Weight Watchers to lose 45 lbs. We would like to try for one last baby Oct of 2010. I am scared of dying after having this once now. I want to know how safe it is if people have gone with the right medical care to have another.I also want to knowledge myself more on this. A woman in my state who was not diagnosed until it was too late that she had Hellp Syndrome was diagnosed after her delivery, she had symptoms for weeks and after 2 transfers to different hospitals she died and her baby survived. She had a liver transplant and everything. I feel that the first dr. I had needs to be reprimanded by the medical board or receive an email from me. If you are going to take on a profession such as dr. of OBGYN you need to knowledge yourself on anything that can happen such as preeclampsia, hellp syndrome etc. and watch for signs and not try to blame the patient or ask the patient if they are using alcohol. Thank you for letting me share my story. In 4 weeks I survived a nightmare that had a happy ending.
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