by kerisue (623 Posts), Tue Nov 13, 2012 06:57 pm
Amber, I'm so sorry that preeclampsia caused little William's death. It's a horrible disease that cost my little one her life too. I can only imagine your agony at having to deliver a baby you knew had passed. This is the worst pain imaginable. I also had Mag and I think pretty much everyone here agrees it is nasty stuff, though apparently effective.
It sounds like you are upset that doctors didn't have you deliver earlier? Obviously I can't know what was right or wrong for your situation. But I do believe that management of preeclampsia is a very delicate balancing act for doctors- delivering too early can be dangerous for the baby and waiting too long can be dangerous for both of you. This disease is so unpredicable that its difficult for them to know what the right plan is for every woman. I think it's best if you can trust your doctor, but is also okay to ask for a second opinion if what you are hearing doesn't feel right. Thankfully the Preeclampsia Foundation continues to educate doctors about this issue and to fund further research into it. Hopefully someday we will have prevention and a cure.
Mama to Millie
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed